Every human being will at one point or the other experience life’s uncertainties, unfulfilled promises, unpleasant situations, unfair treatments and undeserved pains.
The world is wired to give us roses with thorns, sunshine and rain, and a fair share of losses and gains. We must learn to find the blessings and lessons in every season of life.
We should not be quick to accuse God when bad things happen and then forget to acknowledge Him when we experience beautiful things. I hope this poem speaks to your soul.
If you have to ask “Why me?” When it seems God can’t hear your plea, When secret storms won’t let you be, And haunting shadows are all you see.
When your jar of joy runs dry And no one seems to hear your cry. When funds are low and debts are high, And you can only look down and sigh.
When the skies pour fiery raindrops, And your field is full of dying crops. When everything you hold dear flops And your eyes brew bitter teardrops.
When you lay hopeless on a cold bed, And it’s hard to see what lies ahead. When you’ve forgotten what God said, And needless noises fill your head.
When you seem not to have a lifeline, And your noble dreams do not align. When the twilight stars refuse to shine And you are left without a positive sign…
Then, when God finally comes through, When His countenance shines on you, And He prepares a table before you, will you be bold to ask “Why me” too?
God is not like people, who lie; He is not a human who changes his mind. Whatever he promises, he does; He speaks, and it is done. Numbers 23: 19 (Good News Translation)
Which line/verse speaks to you the most? Share your thoughts in the comment section. I love you all, keep your faith strong. ❤❤❤🌸🌸
On the 9th of February 2022, I woke up at about 4:30 am and had a strong push in my heart to pray for my mother who was battling gastric cancer. I was still in my prayer mood when I got a call from my elder sister that my mom was in a critical condition and had been placed on life support.
I sent messages to some of my friends to pray for my mom while I set out to go see her at the hospital. By the time I got to the hospital, she had passed on. I wept bitterly looking at my mom’s lifeless body on the hospital bed. I refused to be consoled until I sensed a divine atmosphere around me and I saw my mom smiling in heaven. I quickly wiped away my tears knowing that she is in a place of eternal bliss where there is no pain or sickness.
I remembered that I still saw her the weekend before her death, I never imagined that I won’t speak to her again. God knows best.
We had to bury her three days after her death. After the funeral, I had to resume back to work. The pressure became too much on me and I started having some strange symptoms. I was scared for my life because of the backlog of health issues I was dealing with before then.
I was recommended to go for two major medical procedures barely three weeks after my mom’s burial.
In all of this, I was dealing with a toxic work environment. It was as if all hell was let loose. I couldn’t pray as I used to. I became emotionally numb. I had to resort to deep Bible study and occasional worship.
It’s tough to sustain a joyful atmosphere amid strange storms and painful experiences but I constantly had to remind myself that joy is my perpetual atmosphere and I can’t lose it even if I’m going through hell and high waters.
I’m still trusting God for victory over all the situations that are threatening my joy but through it all, I rejoice.
While I was meditating on God’s word this morning, I was inspired to write this short piece.
Joy is the seal of God’s presence. It’s the atmosphere of heaven. Heaven is where God lives. So, because God lives within me. I am heaven’s expression on earth. Even if I am going through hell, God still lives in and with me. I will never forget who I am. I will never lose my joy. I am heaven’s expression on earth. I perpetually host God’s presence. Joy is my eternal atmosphere.
I hope to fully get back on my feet emotionally. But in the meantime, I will keep basking in the joy of God’s presence.
Although the fig tree shall not blossom, neither shall fruit be in the vines; the labour of the olive shall fail, and the fields shall yield no meat; the flock shall be cut off from the fold, and there shall be no herd in the stalls: Habakkuk 3:17 KJV
Have a great one, friends. Love and light, Adeleke Adeite
What’s your story? Can you share in just one sentence? Here is mine: “I was broken and buried by life, yet I turned the grave into a golden garden.” Share yours in the comment section. Feel free to make it simple 😁🤗🤗❤❤
We live in an imperfect world filled with flawed people. Some folks will never be sorry for the wrongs they do while some will never show appreciation for the gifts they get. If everyone on earth is perfect, there won’t be any need for tolerance and love.
Love is the fragrance that creates a balance in a world that is polluted with ignorance, arrogance and imbalance.
We cannot survive or thrive without vital relationships. Since everyone on this planet is created for connection either directly or indirectly. However, one of the things that come with connections is conflict.
No matter how much we try to cultivate love and relate responsibly, there will always be offences and arguments.
Conflict does not always indicate the absence of love, it’s sometimes a sign that someone or something is broken and needs to be fixed.
We all are imperfect, as much as we get hurt by others, we also hurt others too whether it’s intentional or not. We all need forgiveness at one point or the other in the journey of life.
However, one of the hardest things to do is to forgive someone or ignore the pain they inflicted. It becomes even more difficult when the people who hurt us refuse to show any remorse or apologise for the wrongs they’ve done. Yet we must strive to live free of hurt
Forgiveness is not a gift you give to those who hurt you, it’s a gift to yourself. Forgiveness gives us the freedom to move forward, live free and fulfil our divine purpose with joy.
Forgiveness helps us to release toxic people and the pains they caused from our living so we can receive the peace of God and lead a cheerful life.
Forgiveness is sometimes a painful process. It becomes easier to forgive when we surrender our hearts to God so He can take away the pain, heal our heart and give you His peace.
God wants us to live our best life. anger, bitterness and sadness are undoubtedly major obstacles to peace and progress. When we take the first step to submit to God, He gives us the grace to forgive freely and help us to make wise decisions going forward.
Meanwhile, forgiveness does not mean that it is okay for you to be mistreated. It doesn’t mean you have to remain in a toxic relationship or let a bad person hurt you again. One of the benefits of surrendering our hearts to God is that He gives us the wisdom to let go and also love toxic people from a safe distance.
It is POSSIBLE to forgive some people completely and still choose to stop doing life with them so that they won’t drag you into the pit of pain again. Forgiveness does not mean you have to give someone another chance to hurt you, it means you give yourself another chance to heal and have peace.
Love without forgiveness is like a bird with one wing, it can’t fly. Love enables us to give cheerfully and forgive freely. Forgiveness is not an option, it’s the only lifeline we have to live, love and lead a beautiful life. Unforgiveness is the coffin where peace, joy and progress are buried.
Intentionality is the key to true forgiveness. Start the process today. Pray for grace to let go and let God. Bury the desire to revenge. Be humble enough to acknowledge your role (if any) in the conflict. Acknowledge the fact that those who hurt you are hurting too, only a broken person will break another person. Shun blame the game. Seek counselling if you must. View offences with the lens of love.
It’s time to stop burning with bitterness and unforgiveness. Cancel your agreement with anger and animosity. Embrace the freedom, peace, love and joy that comes with the package of forgiveness. I pray that God will give you the grace to forgive yourself and others and, heal from every pain they brought to you.
Have you been hurt by someone and you struggled to forgive them? How did you deal with the dispute and heal from the pain? Kindly share your story in the comment section. I love you my dearest family ❤❤❤
Say this prayer Dear God, You are the author and anchor of my life. I acknowledge that you love me and also command me to love others. I pray that You grant me the courage I need to forgive the person who has mistreated me. I have been struggling to heal and move on. Lord, please strengthen me. I am afraid that if I forgive this person, I might get hurt again. Wipe my tears and increase my faith. Give me the wisdom to see those who hurt me the way you see them. Guide me to sort things out amicably and move on.
Help me to let go of bitterness, but at the same time, protect myself so that I won’t get hurt again. Give me more grace and strength to live in love, give cheerfully and forgive freely. Amen.
Come explore my secret place and I’ll show you my scars, flaming letters written, signed and sealed with teardrops.
Journey with me into the night and I will be your sunshine redeeming the times with rays of hope, faith and love.
I’m a soldier seeking no safe space, this bleeding body is holy ground, this sanctuary is a battlefield, I offer sweet worship in warships.
This life can’t be taken, it’s eternal, in the crushing, I become new wine, in the burning, I become pure gold, and in death, I turn grave to a garden.
I am lustrous light, sacred salt, dispensing divine flavour and colours. I’m the type of sun that burns to shine, brewing healing and hope in oceans deep.
Thank you for visiting my blog again dear friends. ❤❤❤ Have you ever felt restrained by love? Kindly share your views and experiences in the comment section.
I was sauntering, desperately searching for perfection, I got broken while passionately trying to fix this perpetual puzzle. Who said there is a missing piece? Who said I need some unravelling? I wish I had known that I am enough and everything I crave is within me.
Struggling to prove my worth, I became blind to my uniqueness. Some said a facelift is all I needed to finally find and deploy my gift. Who said I am broken beyond fixing? Who said I need to be flawless? I wish I had known that I am enough and everything I crave is within me
Craving for validation, I became a slave to conditional love starved of authentic attention till I became bereft of inner bliss. Now I filter people’s opinion about me with the lens of pure love and light. I wish I had known that I am enough and everything I crave is within me.
The Nigerian government has indefinitely suspended Twitter two days after the social media giant removed a post by the nation’s president, Muhammadu Buhari.
The news of the ban was greeted with baseless banters and slight outrage with a touch of social media ‘cruise’. This has left many people wondering if this nation still the giant of Africa or the groaning ant of Africa.
I wonder if this generation is still a ‘woke’ generation or a joke. Are we not seeing the signs of a impending implosion or we just want to remain indifferent in the face of wordless violence from the people in power?
In my pain, I wrote this, hoping that we will wake up and tame the looming disaster.
When our hearts are filled with tears and our spirits stifled with guilt and fears. God is always there to see us through; His peace and love are timeless and true.
When bright days get dark and deary and we seem to get weak and weary; God is always ready to see us through, His grace and light are limitless and true.
When sin and sorrow sting our souls, and blunders make us blind to our goals. God is always there to see us through; His mercies are matchless and true.
When it’s hard to stand and understand why life sometimes feels like quicksand God is always there to see us through, His strength in us priceless and true.
Trade your tears and face your fears God loves, sees, knows and hears… Go borrow vessels, not a few God’s provision is matchless and true
Arise and look within, God lives in you, Even if You can’t feel it, He stands by you. No matter what like takes you through, God’s promises are timely and true.
Hey friends, thank you for reading this. I’ve been feeling low for quite some time now, I found strength in the promises of God and His power to perform every promise.
What do you draw strength from whenever you feel lost, limited and lonely?
I always get tempted to worry about the things I can’t change, but at the end of the day, I discover that there has been a ready-made solutionn for those things, and my worry was worthless.
We all get tempted to worry about certain situations on our lives, and it seems Covid has made anxiety a more acceptable way of dealing with issues.
However, we all must realise that the major difference between worry and concern is this: a worried person tries to carry a mountain, and a concerned person tries to climb a mountain.
This reminds me of this old parable.
Death walked toward a certain city. The watchman of the city stopped Death and asked, “What are you going to do? “I am going to kill 20 thousand people,” said Death. The watchman went into the city immediately and warned as many people as he could. The next day, it was reported that 80 thousand people had died.
The man met Death again later that day and said, “You told me that you were going to kill 20 thousand people, but 80 thousand people died yesterday.” Death replied, “I only killed 20 thousand people, the other 60 thousand were killed by worry and panic”.
Anytime I have cause to worry, I remind myself that worry is not only a waste of time but the graveyard where peace and joy are buried. Why should I worry when I’m not a mortician?
Seven Features of Worry.
Worry is a profitless pressure. Like a rocking chair, worry will give you an activity to do, without a real achievement to show for it. It offers motion without movement.
Worry is a pointless pursuit: If you treat every stormy situation as a matter of life and death matter, you will live once and die a lot of times. We are born again every day, we all have more than one life to live: the good life, the better life, the sweet life, the old life, the new life, the impactful life, the beautiful life. Add yours. Life is vast.
This is how I win
Worry is a pitiable prison. Don’t turn a problem into a perpetual prison. Worry traps people in their old truth and stops them from rewriting their old story. Worry prevents people from enforcing necessary endings and enjoying new beginnings.
Worry is a painful paradise. The looming tragedies that worry projects are imaginary. They are not certain. Your worst fear may never happen at all.
Worry is a pathetic pastime. A pity party is not fun at all. No person will come knocking at your door asking to join your worry hang out. Worry puts you in a position where you feel comfortable with confusion and complications.
Worry is a pressure cooker. Worry saps a great deal of a person’s emotional energy and can leave him completely drained and depressed.
Worry is a parasitic partner. Worry never solves a thing, it makes you focus on the things that has gone wrong, and how they can get worse. Worry robs people of their peace, sleep, joy, hope, faith and love, and sometimes, it saps the life out of them.
How To Win Over Worry.
Tackle the trigger. Identify the root cause of your worry and find resources or people that can help you deal with it. The antidote to your greatest worry is sometimes just a call, a counsellor, a click away.
Fix your focus. Your priority matters. What you pay attention to will determine what you get. Life is operated on the ‘Pay As You Go’ system. If you pay attention to solution, you will get it.
Partner with Peace. Peace is not the absence of trouble but the presence of God during troubles. We cannot control everything but we can create a system that sustains peace in the storm. Piece is always present but we need to position ourselves to enjoy it.
Pay attention to God’s promises. We do not hold the world in our hands, but if we can hold the hands of the God who holds the world, we will be safe. Life’s storm rages on its course, thriving through it all depends on our staying power and what we pay attention to. “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast because they trust in you.” Isaiah 26:3.
Pray and Play with passion. Worry often makes people pray less. However, you don’t have to do long hours of prayers to snap out if worry. Panic is a wrong response to the things you can’t control. Prayer is the right response to things under God’s control. Take time to have fun too. Like people say around here “Problems don’t finish”. Success is a product of problems.
Arise and Affirm Study God’s words and find out the promises that take care of the problems you may be facing. Speak love, speak life, speak blessings and speak victory over yourself. You can get a copy of Whispers of Winners here for daily doses of affirmations that keep worries at bay.
Adeleke Adeite 