A friend that will build a brighter future with you will not use the bricks of your bitter past. All human beings are not perfect but some choose to have positive effect on everyone they meet in life.
I was discussing with my friend Emeka Richard Agu yesterday, I told him that it’s like the last piece of my heart has been broken (last year), the only thing I have left is my conscience. There is no heart for anyone to break anymore.
If my conscience has the capacity to make me treat you kindly, it also has the capacity to make me leave you quickly especially if you are showing signs of retrogression and oppression.
The moment some friends want to ruin your faith, focus and future, run far from them.
We don’t have to be perfect to have positive effect on the people in our circle of influence. A lot of people use imperfection as an excuse to hurt, harass and harm others. It is a fundamental fact that no one is perfect but it is also a timeless truth that everyone can improve and have positive impact.
Don’t imprison yourself in your imperfections. God’s strength is made perfect in our weaknesses. So, it is unfair to use our imperfections to stress, oppress and suppress others.
We were made in the image of the most wonderful God, hence we are an expression of His boundless beauty. I have come to realize that real beauty is all about bringing out the best in others, whoever brings out the worst in others and make them feel valueless, no matter how physically attractive such a person is, he or she is ugly in the mirror of humanity.
In certain societies, it is believed that the man is the ‘head’ of the home and he is expected to give his home a sense of direction and stability but some men have decided to be the ‘headache’ of their homes; irresponsibility and infidelity has turned them to monsters.
However, a woman is expected be the helper of the home but some have become the hunter of the home. While some women are like holy spirit, bringing comfort and courage with their words and way of life, some are like evil spirits, their lying tongues and losed thighs bring conflict and confusion to their homes.
What kind of spirit are you? A hurting spirit or a helping spirit. In life there are no losers or winners, there are only choosers who make conscious and constant efforts to either win or lose.
A mistake doesn’t make you a hurting spirit but when ‘mistakes’ are multiplied and you hurt people more than you help them, you know your spirits is a hurting spirit. We all are prone to errors but when errors become erosion that washes away the peace, progress and prosperity of others, it is a sign that we have yielded our souls to hurting spirits.
It is possible to be impefect and still have positive influence on those in your circle. We can achieve this by taking the following steps:
1) Be swift to defend and slow to offend. Life is not all about competition but positive contributions.
2) Be quick to applaud what is good, if you must criticize, make it constructive.
3) Be quick to apologise and repent when you are wrong. Apologies without positive change in behavior is worthless.
3) Be intentional about kindness, don’t give in order to get. Kindness is not business.
4) Look for the good in others and make conscious effort to make others better than you met them.
5) Appreciate every act of kindness, not just in words but in deeds.
6) Explore endless grace to be good to others.
7) Experience and express love. Be good to yourself and everyone.
8) Extend hands of limitless opportunities to everyone.
We all have what it takes to make the world a better place, a place where we can love, laugh and live together in happiness and harmony.
© Adeleke Adeite 2019