I always get tempted to worry about the things I can’t change, but at the end of the day, I discover that there has been a ready-made solutionn for those things, and my worry was worthless.
We all get tempted to worry about certain situations on our lives, and it seems Covid has made anxiety a more acceptable way of dealing with issues.
However, we all must realise that the major difference between worry and concern is this: a worried person tries to carry a mountain, and a concerned person tries to climb a mountain.
This reminds me of this old parable.
Death walked toward a certain city. The watchman of the city stopped Death and asked, “What are you going to do? “I am going to kill 20 thousand people,” said Death. The watchman went into the city immediately and warned as many people as he could. The next day, it was reported that 80 thousand people had died.
The man met Death again later that day and said, “You told me that you were going to kill 20 thousand people, but 80 thousand people died yesterday.” Death replied, “I only killed 20 thousand people, the other 60 thousand were killed by worry and panic”.
Anytime I have cause to worry, I remind myself that worry is not only a waste of time but the graveyard where peace and joy are buried. Why should I worry when I’m not a mortician?
Seven Features of Worry.
Worry is a profitless pressure. Like a rocking chair, worry will give you an activity to do, without a real achievement to show for it. It offers motion without movement.
Worry is a pointless pursuit: If you treat every stormy situation as a matter of life and death matter, you will live once and die a lot of times. We are born again every day, we all have more than one life to live: the good life, the better life, the sweet life, the old life, the new life, the impactful life, the beautiful life. Add yours. Life is vast.
Worry is a pitiable prison. Don’t turn a problem into a perpetual prison. Worry traps people in their old truth and stops them from rewriting their old story. Worry prevents people from enforcing necessary endings and enjoying new beginnings.
Worry is a painful paradise. The looming tragedies that worry projects are imaginary. They are not certain. Your worst fear may never happen at all.
Worry is a pathetic pastime. A pity party is not fun at all. No person will come knocking at your door asking to join your worry hang out. Worry puts you in a position where you feel comfortable with confusion and complications.
Worry is a pressure cooker. Worry saps a great deal of a person’s emotional energy and can leave him completely drained and depressed.
Worry is a parasitic partner. Worry never solves a thing, it makes you focus on the things that has gone wrong, and how they can get worse. Worry robs people of their peace, sleep, joy, hope, faith and love, and sometimes, it saps the life out of them.
How To Win Over Worry.
Tackle the trigger. Identify the root cause of your worry and find resources or people that can help you deal with it. The antidote to your greatest worry is sometimes just a call, a counsellor, a click away.
Fix your focus. Your priority matters. What you pay attention to will determine what you get. Life is operated on the ‘Pay As You Go’ system. If you pay attention to solution, you will get it.
Partner with Peace. Peace is not the absence of trouble but the presence of God during troubles. We cannot control everything but we can create a system that sustains peace in the storm. Piece is always present but we need to position ourselves to enjoy it.
Pay attention to God’s promises. We do not hold the world in our hands, but if we can hold the hands of the God who holds the world, we will be safe. Life’s storm rages on its course, thriving through it all depends on our staying power and what we pay attention to. “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast because they trust in you.” Isaiah 26:3.
Pray and Play with passion. Worry often makes people pray less. However, you don’t have to do long hours of prayers to snap out if worry. Panic is a wrong response to the things you can’t control. Prayer is the right response to things under God’s control. Take time to have fun too. Like people say around here “Problems don’t finish”. Success is a product of problems.
Arise and Affirm Study God’s words and find out the promises that take care of the problems you may be facing. Speak love, speak life, speak blessings and speak victory over yourself. You can get a copy of Whispers of Winners here for daily doses of affirmations that keep worries at bay.
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Have you ever felt depressed after viewing videos and different photos on social media? Have you ever wondered why every other person seems to be doing better than you because of the things they post online? Do you see yourself as the last and the least among your peers based on your current struggles and status?
You are not alone, many of us are on this table.
However, the truth is, some of us have failed to realise that success is not always about growing faster and bigger, it is sometimes about growing deeper and stronger. Most deeply-rooted plants do not bear fruits rapidly, but they grow stronger, last longer and eventually produce more fruits than shallow-rooted plants.
Don’t feel worthless because you are not producing the kind of results others are producing. Not every form of growth is noticeable. Celebrate your small wins. Your little effort may not attract great ovation and accolades. Take solace in the fact that God’s approval is more important than men’s applause.
Don’t be jealous of the greener grass on the other side, focus on your field, water your ground with pride and engage grace for sustainable growth. Don’t get depressed by the growth and greatness of others, celebrate them and build up faith for your rising.
Rising first or rising fast cannot be compared to rising fully and remaining fruitful. Don’t rush the process, don’t ignore the principles. Success happens in stages and cycles.
Keep developing and deploying your gifts, don’t be pressured by the progress of others. Comparing yourself to others based on their result is an insult to the investment of God in your life. We are all wired to win. Celebrate those who are winning.
Identify your grace, find your pace, occupy your space and run your race. You are not created to be better than anyone, God created you to be the best version of yourself.
No one is doing better than you. You are designed to be different. You are destined to make a difference. Your difference is your shade of excellence. Everyone has enough space and grace to win.
The fact that your growth is not striking does not mean you are stagnant. The fact that your belly is not protruding doesn’t mean you aren’t pregnant. Success has different expressions and dimensions. You are pregnant with grace and greatness.
You are not lost or left behind. Focus on what God is doing within you, and not on the things happening around you.
Don’t settle too soon, keep grinding. Don’t settle too small, keep growing.
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I was having an online conversation with a beautiful young lady some days ago, she aired her views on marriage and relationships. Then she made a statement commonly expressed by some single ladies in this part of the world “marriage is not an achievement”. It was a good opportunity for me to give her some lectures on life and love.
When a person exerts a lot of physical, mental and emotional effort to make something work, it would be wrong for anyone to say what the person has done is not an achievement.
Don’t be misled, marriage is an achievement especially when two people work together to build a lovely, peaceful and beautiful family. If an achievement is a thing done successfully with effort, skill, or strength, then a working/growing marriage is an achievement.
A great union is a medal of honour. In a world where families are failing, children are derailing and vices are prevailing, good relationships and godly homes are the antidotes to many of the troubles in our world. Family is the factory where world peace and prosperity are produced, packaged and dispensed.
However, singleness is also a great achievement. If you are single, sensible, self-reliant, serving God and humanity and not sleeping around, it’s not wrong to say that you are an achiever.
As a Christian, I believe strongly that singleness is not just status or season of life, it’s a symbol of emotional strength and social stability. Not everyone will get married – a bitter truth people fail to taste and digest. Singleness and marriage are major life choices.
Good or bad marriages don’t just happen, they are products or manners, mindsets and motives. Nothing works by itself. If anything is working, something or someone is making is work.
It takes a lot of dedication and discipline to be heartily single, it takes a lot of sacrifices and compromises to be happily married too. The prevalent high rate of divorce has proven that marriage does not guarantee happiness or fulfilment. Singleness does not confer loneliness or sadness on anyone. What makes marriage and singleness work lies in every individual.
Are you happily married or heartily single? I’d love to know your story. Share your thoughts in the comment section. Thank you for reading.