Last December, I decided to send my dad the same Christmas package that I sent to my mom. Immediately he got the package, he called me on phone and began to sob profusely, praying his heart out – to appreciate the unusual gift he got from his son. Why would a man in his 70s get so emotional?
I was already getting into my 30s when I realized that I have to honour and love my father for who he is; not for who I expect him to be. His worth and weaknesses are not really mine to evaluate or validate.
He is an intelligent man, one you could call a 21st-century king Solomon – not in wealth per se, but in wisdom and women affairs. ( That’s on a lighter note)
I didn’t really get a lot from him in terms of provision, attention, and those father-and-son conversations. I used to blame some of my ‘failures’ on the fact that he wasn’t a present dad, until I realized that blame game is a lame game.
I realized that God knew my earthly father’s strengths and struggles – stuffs he would have to live with, and which I will have to learn from. However, I believe that my father would have done better if he knew better. He wasn’t just a polygamous man but a very absent father.
There are different brands of fathers in our world, I don’t know the tag you have given yours, but every father is expected to be an expression of God. Some fathers represent Him well while some are misrepresenting Him terribly.
The world and our homes will be a replica of heaven on earth if fathers decide to follow God’s model of fatherhood.
What Does the Father Wants From Fathers?
Care and Compassion. There is no safe house in this world that is stronger than a father’s love for his child. A child’s heart is designed to flourish in the garden of his father’s pure love. Whoever offers a child such love has a pride of place in the child’s heart. God wants fathers to leave a legacy of love for their children.
Spark the Spirit:
Fathers are supposed to be the priest in the home. Every father should ensure that the family is not only physically fit and fed but spiritually sound and emotionally empowered. God expects fathers to be custodians of spirituality and stability in the home.
As you reflect on the essence of fatherhood today, what emotions run through your mind about your dad or father figure (if any)? Maybe he spent time with you as a child, coaching and mentoring you; Maybe he isn’t there at all. Maybe you don’t even have a father figure. Think of the love of the greatest Father, and let it refine you and redefine your perception of earthly fathers.
I challenge you on this Father’s Day to consider sending a card to that father in your life, even if it’s to your heavenly Father. Tell him something specific you appreciate about him. No one is perfect, not even fathers, but that doesn’t mean they can’t have a positive effect.
Every man in our lives – a father, a husband, a brother, a friend, a distant relative – needs to be encouraged, and be reminded that they should be true representatives of God. Words of appreciation can be a good tool to bring out the best in men.
I once again challenge you to send a gift, thank-you note, poem, or just do something special to appreciate a father figure.
Finally, I will like to share the lyrics of a beautiful song by written Johnny Drille:
He calls me to pray
He tells the Lord, to watch over me
Oh my, Papa, he can like to say
As you go away, don’t forget where you came
If you lose your way, you can pray
Don’t be afraid, don’t lose faith
You will find your help, there’ll be away
Just remember to pray and you’ll be okay.
Happy Father’s Day to all the fathers, father figures and fathers-to-be.
© Adeleke Adeite 2020
Please share with the men in your life.