My heart has been broken, burnt and buried a couple of times. How I still get to love again is a miracle. If you have never been heartbroken, don’t read any further. Okay, that was a joke. Read a little more till you stop seeing yourself in this mirror. (Laughs)
It is believed that prevention is better than cure, but I think that knowing how to prevent unnecessary pains is priceless and pure. When undue pain is not permitted, unwanted regret is not remitted.
I have been in quite a few rash and reckless relationships and have come to realise that there is nothing more depressing than a sinking and stinking relationSHIP. It makes people drown even before their ‘ship’ starts drowning. You know those ‘rosy relationships’ with bitter waters flowing behind the scene.
Folks who are in bitter relationships may not necessarily be frowning but are drowning within. The late music icon, Fela Anikulapo Kuti called it ‘suffering and smiling’.
So, let’s get this straight, everyone will at one point or the other make wrong choices not because they are not wise enough but because they need to learn to value the right choices. Challenges make champions, for those who choose to give change a chance.
One thing that makes it possible to get out of toxic relationships faster is forgiveness, I’m not talking about forgiving the other person, but forgiving yourself.
Forgive yourself first, internal freedom fuels external freedom. It becomes easy to forge ahead when you learn to forgive yourself and stop struggling to forgive the offender or abuser. Stop trying to forget the past and start building a brighter future. Pick up the messy pieces and build a masterpiece. Even God created a bright and beautiful earth out of an empty and worthless earth.
You are not too battered and shattered to be rearranged and repackaged. Your pain is a puzzle that only love can fix – self-love. Forgiving yourself frees you from the hold of your past and gives you access into a deeper dimension of affection. And when you are free from internal bondage, it becomes easy to break free from external bondage.
Tell yourself sorry…
I’m sorry, to say the least, I’m sorry for the last. I’m sorry for forlorn feasts, I’m sorry for the fast.
I’m sorry for weak heartbeats, I’m sorry for the blast. I’m sorry for my faulty feats, I’m sorry for the past.
I’m sorry for dull film and frame, I’m sorry for dead desire. I’m sorry for my flagrant flame, I’m sorry about the fire.
I’m sorry for shadow and shame I’m sorry for the mire. I’m sorry for every blame game, I’m sorry for my quagmire.
There is a drop of greatness in everyone, no one is created empty, useless or worthless. God deposited the seed of success in everyone but only few people nuture the seed to grow into a florishing field and garden of greatness.
There is a time to arrive and a time to depart, in between is the opportunity to stay. Every opportunity comes with responsibility and such must be carried out with diligence to enjoy the full benefit of the opportunity.
Success is a choice; if you are willing to succeed, no one can stop you and if you are willing to fail, no one can force you not to fail.
To succeed in any given field, attempt the following.
#Desire something great for yourself and those around you.
#Enquire from successful men and women; read books and relate with great people.
#Acquire new skills, materials and innovative information that can help you fulfil your dreams. Attend seminars and workshops.
#Require great things from yourself and others; set targets and find friends who can help you achieve your set target.
#Perspire and work smart. Make plans and work out your plans without procastinating.
#Refire and never retire even in the face obstacles and opposition.
#Inspire others to get better… Investing in others makes you a super success.
Your decision to change your direction is sometimes your passport to your destination. Take time to reflect on your present position and what you must do to get to your desired destination.
Your friend in the school of Success,
Some friends and family find it hard to assist you to get your business ideas and career prospect become a reality because they are in a social and financial competition with you.
Strangers find it easy to help you, sometimes because they do not feel any sense of competition.
Our greatest disappointment will not come from strangers but from close associates. Not really because they are bad people, it is in human nature to compete. We fast forget that our destinies and destinations differ.
However, it is important to know that help comes from God and He chooses to use the most unlikely people in the strangest of ways and in unknown places.
It is our expectations that get us disappointed, not the people we depended on for help.
Stop expecting too much from people, everyone has a cross to carry. Pursue your dream with open arm and not with pointed fingers. Stop blaming friends and start welcoming helpful strangers.
You are your own best friend and biggest fan.