Self-esteem, also known as self-worth, is the impression people have of themselves. The feeling of being valuable and liked. Your self-esteem involves a variety of notions about yourself, such as your appearance, your emotions and how you measure your achievements or failures.
Over the years, I have had seasons when I doubted my worth. Days when I feel unloved and unworthy of life. In some of these moments, by divine providence, some of my friends send nice notes to me in the form of testimonials, quotes, poems or compliments. This helps me to connect to my core and also realise that I am not as worthless as I feel in my darkest hours.
I will be sharing some of these testimonials in my new blog series ‘Tapestry of Testimonials’. Enjoy these beautiful pieces written by my amazing sister and friend from the Philippines, Alerma Grace. We met on Yourquote.in and grew to become best friend’s. I call her my Sweet Sister Bear (SSB)
How do you deal with low self-esteem? Do you think validation from others helps to boost self-esteem?
Hey friends, say hello to my first collaboration with my friend from S.A. Theodore Ndlovu
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Having been so busy lately, I couldn’t publish a blog post to celebrate my seventh blog anniversary on the 1st of March.
Time has flown and I still can’t believe it’s been seven years of pouring out my heart to generate international influence. It’s all because of my loyal and loving family (followers) who are simply the sweetest. I thought of doing something spectacular and so I will be sharing 7 things you don’t know about me. I’m not a mystery guy, so let me share my history with you all.
I was born on the 29th of August 1986 into a polygamous family in Lagos, Nigeria. I believe that my name, Adeleke is God’s greatest gift to me through my parents. Adeleke is a royal name which means ‘The crown triumphs’. I was born into battle, and I needed a prophetic assurance that I am wired to always win. My parents separated shortly after I was born. I was raised by my mom who was a devoted Christian and disciplinarian. She raised me and my siblings to be contented and steadfast in our quest for success.
I had to peddle goods with my siblings till I was 16. However, amid the hustle and bustle, I created time to read books and write articles.
I started writing at age 10, but I wrote my first poem at 17 and it’s titled ‘Hope For Tomorrow’. In 2005, I started publishing my poems online despite my limited access to the internet at that time. My resilience paid off as I received my first international poetry award on poetrysoup.com in 2008. I have written over 10 songs and 8 has been produced by both locally and internationally.
I get all my support and encouragement from divine connections outside my family. I believe that my family find it hard to encourage me because they believe that I should focus my mental energy on a financially regarding venture. I was discouraged by their actions and apathy even after I won 30 USD for my fourth place win in the Poetrysoup international poetry contest in 2008.
Publishing my first book was a major miracle, God gave me vital connections that made me realise that family is more about bond and affection, and not blood-connection. God blessed me with a community that gave me all the necessary support to publish Whispers of Winners during the total lockdown in 2020. I draw strength to keep writing from God, the voices in my head and the great community I belong to both online and offline.
I am also surrounded by an amazing Church family who celebrates and appreciates my budding writing skill.
My experiences while growing up made me comfortable with solitude. Loneliness was my closest friend until I started drowning in the ocean of depression at 18. However, a vital part of me is extremely open and friendly. I don’t keep a lot of friends but I try to be loyal and loving to the few folks I’m able to bond with.
I had my first girlfriend in 2009 when I was in my final year at university. The relationship lasted for about three years. It ended due to infidelity. For me, honesty and loyalty are sacrosanct, if they are lacking in a relationship, I’ll jump out of the ship. I had a few random relationships until 2018.
In December 2018, I proposed marriage to a lady but we had to go separate ways because I was very impatient and she was extremely dishonest and disloyal. Since then, I’ve decided to stay single and celibate, and also use my time and talent to serve God and humanity. It’s not been an easy journey but it’s been rewarding and blissful.
What I do for fun.
I love seeing movies and hanging out with my closest friends.
My biggest fear/greatest goal.
Poverty. I tasted real poverty while growing up and I dread it like the plague it is. I have dreams that are bigger than my brain and my budget and I want to generate the king of wealth that will make me have a transgenerational impact
I want to get millions of people around the world out of poverty and hunger; two things I suffered while growing up. I want to bring hope and help to those in need. I desire to make the world a better and happier place.
My greatest achievement so far
I would say bagging MSc in Measurement and Evaluation is my greatest achievement so far. Not only because I sponsored myself with my meagre income at that time but because I sacrificed a lot with the help of God to achieve the kind of grade I desired. at was during my master’s degree program that I developed Ulcer. It’s worth the sacrifice. (Smiles)
My greatest regret:
I’m not sure I have regrets anymore. I’ve learned to leave my past errors0 where they belong and live my best life, right here right now. I regret nothing and worry about nothing.
The blessing of the Lord makes rich, and he adds no sorrow with it. Proverbs 10:22 Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established. Proverbs 16:3 Declare this I am wealthyI declare generational wealth into my lifeMy hands are empowered to gather true richesI am supernaturally blessed Get a free copy of Whisper […]
I was having an online conversation with a beautiful young lady some days ago, she aired her views on marriage and relationships. Then she made a statement commonly expressed by some single ladies in this part of the world “marriage is not an achievement”. It was a good opportunity for me to give her some lectures on life and love.
When a person exerts a lot of physical, mental and emotional effort to make something work, it would be wrong for anyone to say what the person has done is not an achievement.
Don’t be misled, marriage is an achievement especially when two people work together to build a lovely, peaceful and beautiful family. If an achievement is a thing done successfully with effort, skill, or strength, then a working/growing marriage is an achievement.
A great union is a medal of honour. In a world where families are failing, children are derailing and vices are prevailing, good relationships and godly homes are the antidotes to many of the troubles in our world. Family is the factory where world peace and prosperity are produced, packaged and dispensed.
However, singleness is also a great achievement. If you are single, sensible, self-reliant, serving God and humanity and not sleeping around, it’s not wrong to say that you are an achiever.
As a Christian, I believe strongly that singleness is not just status or season of life, it’s a symbol of emotional strength and social stability. Not everyone will get married – a bitter truth people fail to taste and digest. Singleness and marriage are major life choices.
Good or bad marriages don’t just happen, they are products or manners, mindsets and motives. Nothing works by itself. If anything is working, something or someone is making is work.
It takes a lot of dedication and discipline to be heartily single, it takes a lot of sacrifices and compromises to be happily married too. The prevalent high rate of divorce has proven that marriage does not guarantee happiness or fulfilment. Singleness does not confer loneliness or sadness on anyone. What makes marriage and singleness work lies in every individual.
Are you happily married or heartily single? I’d love to know your story. Share your thoughts in the comment section. Thank you for reading.
And I will make thee exceeding fruitful and I will make nations of thee and kings shall come out of thee. Genesis 17:6 By this my Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit and so prove to be my disciples. John 15:8 Declare this I am exceedingly fruitful,I bear nations and kings come forth […]
‘Amazing Grace’ is the sweetest sound I have ever heard, next to this is your voice gently saying “I love you” while I’m wrapped in your warm embrace. Today, I want to reassure you that I love you more. I love you more than the sweetest pleasures and the deepest pains of life. I love you more than the brightest days and darkest nights we’ll ever see.
You may have been called some sweet and beautiful names by some deceptive and unserious lovers but let me reassure you that you are not my sunshine because you do not rise in the morning and set at night. You are not the love of my life but the life of my love because you are love expressed in body, soul and spirit. Your brilliance reminds me of the rainbow
a symbol of grace and heaven’s glow, you flaunt God’s colour and unravel His flavour everywhere you go. Everytime I look into your eyes, I catch a glimpse of paradise, now I know that heaven is not a mysterious place beyond the skies, but somewhere deep within our hearts, a place where God rules and reigns. You are bred from royal and radiant bloodlines a blend of beauty and bliss far beyond skylines.
This love that we share is a bed of roses, I will forever relish its fragrance and harness the thorns it throws at us. I need you to understand that the symphony of your spirit affirms the rhythms of my soul. Every note, every bar, and every beat make a matchless melody, a rhapsody of eternal love, pure and true. A love made in heaven, assembled on earth and built for eternity. This is not another love letter but a timely reminder that you are designed to be desired and created to be craved. You are God’s work of art that I love the most. A masterpiece modelled by the Father, Son and Holy Ghost
Happy Valentine’s Day my friends. Just a quick reminder that whether you are someone’s one and only, or you feel lost and lonely. You are loved by the One who is Love, God. Have fun and don’t lose faith. ❤❤❤How are you doing today?