I hope it’s not too late to wish you all a happy new year. I’ve missed you all.
Yay! It’s my 9th blogversary on WordPress and I must say it has been an enriching and exceptional experience sharing my thoughts and life experiences with you all.
To celebrate this feat, I’ll share a piece I wrote this morning with you all. It’s a poem of hope and healing that sprung up in my soul after I had gone through three weeks of emotional pain.
Goodbye yesterday, goodbye yesteryear. Goodbye to failure, frustration and fear. It’s a new dawn, it’s a new season. I’ve climbed God’s hills, it’s a new horizon.
Goodbye guilt, goodbye gloom. Goodbye darkness, death and doom. Hello hope and healing, I am free again. Christ has saved me from the pit of pain.
Goodbye tension, goodbye trauma. Goodbye deep depression and drama. Hello, faith and freedom – my new companions. I am no longer a slave to negative opinions.
Goodbye affliction, goodbye addictions. Goodbye reproach, regret and restrictions. Hello, redemption, I have the victory. I am saved from every mess and misery.
Goodbye hardship, goodbye hostility. Goodbye suffering, sorrow and scarcity. Hello harvest, there’s no more hindrance. I am swimming in sweetness and superabundance.
Goodbye dismay, goodbye disappointment. Goodbye rage, wrath and resentment. Hello, favour, I’m loved and limitless. I am graced with glory and greatness.
Goodbye, hurts, goodbye haunting shadows. Goodbye weariness and worry windows. Jesus’ joy and peace now flow in my soul. Christ has transformed and made me whole.
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You are worthy of legendary love the kind of love that heals you completely love, like the balm flowing from God’s palms the kind of love that soothes your soul love like the rhythms of sacred psalms the kind of love that drains your pains.
You are worthy of limitless love the kind of love that fills you up genuinely love like an ever-flowing fountain the kind of love that empowers you to excel love so full, free and fathomless the kind of love that leaves sages speechless.
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Oftentimes, the challenges of life shake the foundations of our faith so much that we tend to forget who God is, what He has said, what He can do, and who we are to God.
The moment we begin to doubt the integrity, ability, and sovereignty of God, then, discouragement, despair, and darkness begin to set in.
We need to constantly remember the person, the power, and the promises of God if we must sail through storms seasons without drowning.
If our faith does not fail, we will eventually prevail.
Faith is the key to unlocking the victories given to us by God. Our faith flourishes when we focus on the presence of God amid pain and pressure.
God sometimes permits pain and pressure to promote and protect us. It takes crushing and pressing to produce new wine. God will use whatever the enemy designed against us for our good and His glory.
My dear friends, today, be reminded of these timeless truths…
God is too faithful to fail you. God is too merciful to forsake you. God is too mindful to forget you. God is too powerful to be defeated. God is too wonderful to be limited. God is too beautiful to be degraded. This great God lives in you and loves you recklessly.
Scripture Reference. Isaiah 41:10-13 ESV
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Behold, all who are incensed against you shall be put to shame and confounded; those who strive against you shall be as nothing and shall perish. You shall seek those who contend with you, but you shall not find them; those who war against you shall be as nothing at all. For I, the Lord your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, “Fear not, I am the one who helps you.”
We live in an imperfect world filled with flawed people. Some folks will never be sorry for the wrongs they do while some will never show appreciation for the gifts they get. If everyone on earth is perfect, there won’t be any need for tolerance and love.
Love is the fragrance that creates a balance in a world that is polluted with ignorance, arrogance and imbalance.
We cannot survive or thrive without vital relationships. Since everyone on this planet is created for connection either directly or indirectly. However, one of the things that come with connections is conflict.
No matter how much we try to cultivate love and relate responsibly, there will always be offences and arguments.
Conflict does not always indicate the absence of love, it’s sometimes a sign that someone or something is broken and needs to be fixed.
We all are imperfect, as much as we get hurt by others, we also hurt others too whether it’s intentional or not. We all need forgiveness at one point or the other in the journey of life.
However, one of the hardest things to do is to forgive someone or ignore the pain they inflicted. It becomes even more difficult when the people who hurt us refuse to show any remorse or apologise for the wrongs they’ve done. Yet we must strive to live free of hurt
Forgiveness is not a gift you give to those who hurt you, it’s a gift to yourself. Forgiveness gives us the freedom to move forward, live free and fulfil our divine purpose with joy.
Forgiveness helps us to release toxic people and the pains they caused from our living so we can receive the peace of God and lead a cheerful life.
Forgiveness is sometimes a painful process. It becomes easier to forgive when we surrender our hearts to God so He can take away the pain, heal our heart and give you His peace.
God wants us to live our best life. anger, bitterness and sadness are undoubtedly major obstacles to peace and progress. When we take the first step to submit to God, He gives us the grace to forgive freely and help us to make wise decisions going forward.
Meanwhile, forgiveness does not mean that it is okay for you to be mistreated. It doesn’t mean you have to remain in a toxic relationship or let a bad person hurt you again. One of the benefits of surrendering our hearts to God is that He gives us the wisdom to let go and also love toxic people from a safe distance.
It is POSSIBLE to forgive some people completely and still choose to stop doing life with them so that they won’t drag you into the pit of pain again. Forgiveness does not mean you have to give someone another chance to hurt you, it means you give yourself another chance to heal and have peace.
Love without forgiveness is like a bird with one wing, it can’t fly. Love enables us to give cheerfully and forgive freely. Forgiveness is not an option, it’s the only lifeline we have to live, love and lead a beautiful life. Unforgiveness is the coffin where peace, joy and progress are buried.
Intentionality is the key to true forgiveness. Start the process today. Pray for grace to let go and let God. Bury the desire to revenge. Be humble enough to acknowledge your role (if any) in the conflict. Acknowledge the fact that those who hurt you are hurting too, only a broken person will break another person. Shun blame the game. Seek counselling if you must. View offences with the lens of love.
It’s time to stop burning with bitterness and unforgiveness. Cancel your agreement with anger and animosity. Embrace the freedom, peace, love and joy that comes with the package of forgiveness. I pray that God will give you the grace to forgive yourself and others and, heal from every pain they brought to you.
Have you been hurt by someone and you struggled to forgive them? How did you deal with the dispute and heal from the pain? Kindly share your story in the comment section. I love you my dearest family ❤❤❤
Say this prayer Dear God, You are the author and anchor of my life. I acknowledge that you love me and also command me to love others. I pray that You grant me the courage I need to forgive the person who has mistreated me. I have been struggling to heal and move on. Lord, please strengthen me. I am afraid that if I forgive this person, I might get hurt again. Wipe my tears and increase my faith. Give me the wisdom to see those who hurt me the way you see them. Guide me to sort things out amicably and move on.
Help me to let go of bitterness, but at the same time, protect myself so that I won’t get hurt again. Give me more grace and strength to live in love, give cheerfully and forgive freely. Amen.
Thank you for visiting my blog again dear friends. ❤❤❤ Have you ever felt restrained by love? Kindly share your views and experiences in the comment section.
I write this letter with mixed feelings – the feeling of being loved from an unsafe distance and the feeling of being abandoned in darkness to die. I have finally found the courage to turn my pains into poetry, using the teardrops from my bleeding heart to graciously paint the portrait of a father I wanted but couldn’t find in you.
Life has been a medley of flood and flames, I have had my fair share of sunny days – days I wished my father would be a patch of shade in the scourging sun. I have also had my fair share of rainy days – days, when I felt the saltiness of my teardrops mix with the coldness of raindrops to give me the kind of fever only a father’s love can cure.
Life is nothing but a potpourri of ups and downs, and as a thirty-five years old man, I have had many up moments when fears and frustration were high. I have witnessed many down moments when funds and faith were outrageously low.
These moments left me with the scars of bad decisions and indecisions. I wished your words were a lamp to my feet and the light to my way when the fragrant fires of life lured me into avoidable affliction.
Like a lone tree on a highway, at my prime, when fruits were fresh and my leaves were flourishing, many wayfarers threw stones and pebbles at me, and I wished your words were a shield in which I could take refuge. When drought stole the grace of my existence, I wished your love would cascade with bliss to revive my dying soul.
Maybe I was too focused on you for nourishment, and so it was easy to blame you for my starvation. I was pointlessly waiting on you to free me, thinking that you are not the rock of my salvation. Over and over again, you didn’t show up when I needed you the most, and this messed up my mind.
The things you didn’t say were louder than the things you said. I still feel the echoes of your silence piercing through the fabrics of my tender heart. The things you didn’t do were more forgivable than the things you did. I was expecting you to fill a vacuum no mortal man can fill.
I kept drowning in the ocean of negative emotions, my heart broke into a million messy pieces yet you couldn’t hear the sound of my heart crashing, because you were too far to feel the pulse of my pain and see the tapestry of my troubles.
All these years, I wished I could have a real conversation with you to tell you my story, I wanted you to see how emotional neglect brews streams of sorrow, tears and blood. But maybe I was too childish to see things from your perspective.
Maybe there was more to what I saw. Maybe you are a bleeding man with a broken spirit, maybe you lived a more terrible tale than mine, maybe you are bred from a cycle of emotional neglect, maybe we are all shattered souls from a bleeding bloodline. Maybe I was raised for such a time as this to break that cycle of struggles and introduce Jesus Christ the Cornerstone and my Anchor to the ground. The one who was sent to connect all dying men to the healing bloodline – our eternal ancestry.
This letter would be incomplete if I do not tell you everything that happened in your absence. How Christ picked me up from the pit of perdition, washed me in the stream of salvation and clothed me with the robe of redemption which He bought with His precious blood on Calvary’s tree.
He reconnected me to my real Father and nullified the negativity that your absence brought into my life. In Him, I discovered my true identity as a son of God and reclaimed my dignity as a royal priest.
He revealed my truth to me and this changed everything. Now I know that before I was formed in my mother’s womb, God knew. He made me in His image and likeness to proclaim the wonders of His love and light. I am king bred from a chosen generation and a holy nation. I am not just another baggage of blunders but a mortal masterpiece, God’s precious work of art – blood type: humanity, DNA: divinity.
My intention is not to make you regret your past errors or feel sad for the painful memories that time cannot heal. I am glad that your absence led me into God’s precious presence. My hunger for a father’s love led me into His warm embrace, and now in my heart, God has a permanent place.
I am no longer the same, I no longer live in the valley of shame. I am a mobile miracle, a walking wonder and a slice of paradise, just like heaven on earth – God lives and reigns in my heart.
If God gives me my own children someday, I hope to represent the Heavenly father better than you did. I pray that I will wield the wisdom of God and the help of the Holy Spirit to be vitally connected to my children in ways that will make God proud.
This is not to say that you are not worthy of appreciation. Even the best of fathers cannot fill the God-shaped hole in every child’s heart. So you see why some children struggle to accept the love of God, hoping that He is not the unseen version of the imperfect fathers on earth, some of whom have badly represented God in words and deeds.
I must say that it took some defining moments for me to acknowledge that God is the perfect portrait of fatherhood. The One true father that every father on earth longs to be like even at their weakest. This understanding has brought me to a point where I can genuinely say that I am no longer bitter, and from the depth of my heart, I forgive you, I honour you and love you, dear father.
Self-esteem, also known as self-worth, is the impression people have of themselves. The feeling of being valuable and liked. Your self-esteem involves a variety of notions about yourself, such as your appearance, your emotions and how you measure your achievements or failures.
Over the years, I have had seasons when I doubted my worth. Days when I feel unloved and unworthy of life. In some of these moments, by divine providence, some of my friends send nice notes to me in the form of testimonials, quotes, poems or compliments. This helps me to connect to my core and also realise that I am not as worthless as I feel in my darkest hours.
I will be sharing some of these testimonials in my new blog series ‘Tapestry of Testimonials’. Enjoy these beautiful pieces written by my amazing sister and friend from the Philippines, Alerma Grace. We met on Yourquote.in and grew to become best friend’s. I call her my Sweet Sister Bear (SSB)
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How do you deal with low self-esteem? Do you think validation from others helps to boost self-esteem?
We all were blameless in the beginning but the serpent staged an unnecessary ending. Exposed to sin, we were stained, estranged in sin, we were chained.
This terrible tale is as old as time; mankind got cocooned in a cool crime. Stripped, there was nowhere to hide, cursed to perish in passion and pride.
It was for love that Christ Jesus died; to crush our chains, He was crucified. The Holy Lamb of God knew no sin gave His precious life, lost souls to win.
For him, there’s no mountain too high, not even the devil’s biggest lie, no cross, no cave, no thorny crown could stop him from chasing us down.
To ransom all, Jesus paid the price; the greatest of all-time sacrifice. No greater love can any soul display, this grandest gift none can repay.
Our fall was fatal, blood was the cure, the ransom was great, priceless and pure. Jesus’ blood was shed once and for all, to save mankind, He heeded death’s call.
God rolled out this perfect plan to give abundant life to every man. Limitless love poured out at Calvary did change man’s eternal destiny.
Through Christ’s death and resurrection, we have with God an eternal connection. To Satan’s ploy, your are no more a slave Christ has conquered death and the grave.
He lived, loved and left a lasting mark. His rising resounds, all creations hark. Death is defeated, sin is overthrown, forever freed are we, in Christ alone!
Adeleke Adeite 