Revenge and Recovery

A man who keeps walking back to an ugly past should not expect to arrive at a beautiful future.

Life is a perfect place for imperfect people. No matter how loving and caring we are, we sometimes hurt ourselves knowingly or unknowingly.

Some offences are forgivable while some seem to be unforgivable in magnitude. Their impact can be devastating and life-threatening. However, love is still the answer to the questions of every broken heart.

We don’t have to forgive everyone who wrongs us but we need to give ourselves the freedom to live and love again – this is only possible when we forgive. The fact that someone hurt us should not make us stop living our best life.

An offence should not automatically become a death sentence to the offended person.

Some people do not deserve our forgiveness for what they’ve said or done. But if we desire to live in peace and joy, we must choose to make our hearts a paradise where love reigns, and not a prison where we nurse negative emotions.

Don’t stop living your best life because of your worst experience. A flower does not stop blooming because it is planted in dirty soil. Find healing in that hurt. Find meaning in that mess.

Stop cheating yourself, and stop allowing your emotions to cheat you. The time you are using to replay the terrible experiences you’ve had with people can be used to rebuild your life. The time you are using to plan revenge can be used to seek genuine recovery and restoration.

Revenge can bring a false feeling of relief but it will never guarantee complete freedom from pain. Revenge often creates two damaged losers, no one wins eventually. There is no point in being even with an evil person.

Shun the desire to have a tie with a terrible person. Play a better game, win with love. If revenge will bring you recovery, go for it. I just know that you don’t cure headaches by hitting your head hard.

Revenge creates a cycle of rage and resentment while forgiveness creates a fountain of freedom and fulfilment. The choice is yours.

Forgiveness is sometimes a hard choice to make when the wound is still fresh and painful, but with patience, prayers and intentional pursuit of peace, it becomes easier to forgive.

Today, submit your heart to God in prayers, seek His love and let Him take care of the pains that time can not heal. Seek counselling and therapy if need be. Don’t keep sinking in self-pity and hopelessness. There is more for your life.

Finally, remember that looking good, living a better life and loving yourself more is the best revenge. Seek the best revenge!

Hey friends, I have not been publishing my writings for a while because I’ve been recuperating and I’m in a process of career transition. I missed you all.

How do you deal with offences and offenders? Please share in the comment section.

Living and Forgiving

We live in an imperfect world filled with flawed people. Some folks will never be sorry for the wrongs they do while some will never show appreciation for the gifts they get. If everyone on earth is perfect, there won’t be any need for tolerance and love.

Love is the fragrance that creates a balance in a world that is polluted with ignorance, arrogance and imbalance.

We cannot survive or thrive without vital relationships. Since everyone on this planet is created for connection either directly or indirectly. However, one of the things that come with connections is conflict.

No matter how much we try to cultivate love and relate responsibly, there will always be offences and arguments.

Conflict does not always indicate the absence of love, it’s sometimes a sign that someone or something is broken and needs to be fixed.

We all are imperfect, as much as we get hurt by others, we also hurt others too whether it’s intentional or not. We all need forgiveness at one point or the other in the journey of life.

However, one of the hardest things to do is to forgive someone or ignore the pain they inflicted. It becomes even more difficult when the people who hurt us refuse to show any remorse or apologise for the wrongs they’ve done. Yet we must strive to live free of hurt

Forgiveness is not a gift you give to those who hurt you, it’s a gift to yourself. Forgiveness gives us the freedom to move forward, live free and fulfil our divine purpose with joy.

Forgiveness helps us to release toxic people and the pains they caused from our living so we can receive the peace of God and lead a cheerful life.

Forgiveness is sometimes a painful process. It becomes easier to forgive when we surrender our hearts to God so He can take away the pain, heal our heart and give you His peace.

God wants us to live our best life. anger, bitterness and sadness are undoubtedly major obstacles to peace and progress. When we take the first step to submit to God, He gives us the grace to forgive freely and help us to make wise decisions going forward.

Meanwhile, forgiveness does not mean that it is okay for you to be mistreated. It doesn’t mean you have to remain in a toxic relationship or let a bad person hurt you again. One of the benefits of surrendering our hearts to God is that He gives us the wisdom to let go and also love toxic people from a safe distance.

It is POSSIBLE to forgive some people completely and still choose to stop doing life with them so that they won’t drag you into the pit of pain again. Forgiveness does not mean you have to give someone another chance to hurt you, it means you give yourself another chance to heal and have peace.

Love without forgiveness is like a bird with one wing, it can’t fly. Love enables us to give cheerfully and forgive freely.
Forgiveness is not an option, it’s the only lifeline we have to live, love and lead a beautiful life. Unforgiveness is the coffin where peace, joy and progress are buried.

Intentionality is the key to true forgiveness. Start the process today. Pray for grace to let go and let God. Bury the desire to revenge. Be humble enough to acknowledge your role (if any) in the conflict. Acknowledge the fact that those who hurt you are hurting too, only a broken person will break another person. Shun blame the game. Seek counselling if you must. View offences with the lens of love.

It’s time to stop burning with bitterness and unforgiveness. Cancel your agreement with anger and animosity. Embrace the freedom, peace, love and joy that comes with the package of forgiveness.
I pray that God will give you the grace to forgive yourself and others and, heal from every pain they brought to you.

© Adeleke Adeite

Have you been hurt by someone and you struggled to forgive them? How did you deal with the dispute and heal from the pain? Kindly share your story in the comment section. I love you my dearest family ❤❤❤

Say this prayer
Dear God, You are the author and anchor of my life. I acknowledge that you love me and also command me to love others.
I pray that You grant me the courage I need to forgive the person who has mistreated me. I have been struggling to heal and move on.
Lord, please strengthen me. I am afraid that if I forgive this person, I might get hurt again. Wipe my tears and increase my faith.
Give me the wisdom to see those who hurt me the way you see them. Guide me to sort things out amicably and move on.

Help me to let go of bitterness, but at the same time, protect myself so that I won’t get hurt again.
Give me more grace and strength to live in love, give cheerfully and forgive freely. Amen.

35 Shades of Grace

35 Shades of Grace

I smile like there’s no sorrow,
and when sorrow strikes, I smile again.
I sing like there is no one listening,
and when someone listens, I sing again.

I love like there is no deception,
and when deception comes, I love again.
I live like there is no tomorrow,
and when tomorrow comes, I live again.

It’s been 35 years of living out loud,
though there were days I died in silence.
It’s been 35 years of learning to soar
though there were days I sank in silence.

I came this far only by grace,
life has happened to me many times.
I run into God’s warm embrace
even when I commit common crimes.

I turn pain into a work of art,
because I carry God’s creative force.
I brew hymns in my hurting heart
because God is my inexhaustible source.
© Adeleke Adeite

I will be 35 on the 29th of August and I wish to engage in 35 acts of kindness before that day. Kindly suggest some acts of kindness I could explore in the comment section. Thank you for reading my desrest family ❤❤❤🤗🤗

You Are a Mortal Miracle

With all the pains and devastating experiences going on in the world, it is now easier to drift into discouragement. A lot of folks feel lost and lonely. Secret tears and valid fears have overwhelmed many souls. Everyone needs a miracle. Our world needs healing, hope and help.

While you are praying for a miracle don’t forget that you are one too. You are a blessing to our world. Don’t magnify your past and present mistakes. Don’t amplify the voice of your pains. You are a perfect portrait of God. You are pregnant with possibilities. How I wish we all can happen for good to ourselves.

Life is not all about highs and lows, there is a point in between the darkest night and the brightest day where you have to create radiant realities. You have all it takes to shift atmospheres. Don’t feel worthless or hopeless. Your struggles are a sign that there is something significant about your life.

Shine your light in the tunnel, don’t wait till you get to the end. Use the key of gratitude to unlock the limitless possibilities within you. Focus on the blessings around you, the beauty within you and the brighter days ahead of you. Your darkest valley is not a place of residence but a point of reference. Keep being the hero of your story.

Ask God for grace to grow stronger while you go through the flood and flames of life. Cry for help if you have to. Retreat if you need to. Seek a professional assistant if you have to. Find every positive possible way to get up and get better.

You may feel buried under the weight of pains and pressure but your life won’t end like this. See yourself as a seed planted to die, decay and flourish eventually. The painful process you are going through does not nullify the beautiful product you will ultimately produce. Cultivate yourself with positive thoughts, right actions and good relationships. Pray fervently and trust God to see you through. You are a winner, enforce your victory. Spread love and light in every little way you can.

Have an amazing day my friends. I love you all. ❤❤❤

© Adeleke Adeite

Inspiring Teachers

Only an inspiring teacher can…
produce great purpose out of grave pain,
turn a terrible mess into a terrific message,
and create great possibilities out of gross difficulties.
Inspiring teachers are perfect portraits of God.

Have you ever been taught by an inspiring teacher? Share your experience in the comment section.

Unashamed – A Poem

Dear friend,

No matter how far you have gone,
No matter the wrongs you’ve done
God’s love for you is great and excess
He is still merciful in your weakness.

He is running after you with His grace
He will accept you with a warm embrace,
Come back home just the way you are
God’s love is mighty to heal every scar.

No sin is too big for God to forgive
Jesus died to free every captive,
His blood has cleansed every stain
His power has broken every chain.

Come lay down the burdens of sin
Come and be cleansed from within
Come receive power to win every fight
Come into this kingdom of love and light.

Come boldly to the throne of God,
and be washed in His cleansing flood.
Come to the field of loved untamed,
Come live free, lifted and unashamed.

Copyright Adeleke Adeite

My Secret Place – A Poem

Come explore my secret place
and I’ll show you my scars,
flaming letters written, signed
and sealed with teardrops.

Journey with me into the night
and I will be your sunshine
redeeming the times with rays
of hope, faith and love.

I’m a soldier seeking no safe space,
this bleeding body is holy ground,
this sanctuary is a battlefield,
I offer sweet worship in warships.

This life can’t be taken, it’s eternal,
in the crushing, I become new wine,
in the burning, I become pure gold,
and in death, I turn grave to a garden.

I am lustrous light, sacred salt,
dispensing divine flavour and colours.
I’m the type of sun that burns to shine,
brewing healing and hope in oceans deep.

So come explore my secret place
and I’ll show you my scars,
the sacred tapestry of my victories
in the valley of pernicious shadows.
Copyright © Adeleke Adeite

What will I find in your secret place? Share in the comment section 💛💛💛

Thank you for exploring my secret place through my blog. 🌹🌹

7 WAYS TO CULTIVATE CREATIVITY

1. Dare to be different.

Uniquiness is the fragrance of creativity. One of the ways to steal people’s heart is to stimulate their senses with something spectacular.

2. Take calculated risks

The fear of failure triggers mediocrity. Failure is not the opposite of success, it is one of the main ingredients of success. Don’t be afraid to fail, learn from your mistakes and create masterpieces out of messy pieces. It is risky not to take risk.


3. Plan, Prepare and Practice.

Dream big, start small and pursue excellence. Every tall tree is a product of a small seed that was planted and nurtured over time. Don’t focus on the green grass on the other side. Your grace will get greener when you water the ground with faith, patience and diligence.

4. Brainstorm ideas.

Train your brain to capture possibilities. The most beautiful things in the world are products of creative imaginations. While some men see trees as firewood, some see trees as beautiful furnitures. It takes a creative mind to transform trash to treasure.

5. Challenge yourself

You are a product of possibilities, designed to be ingenious and impactful. However, you can only produce results when you move from comfort zone to growth zone. Creativity requires taking up challenges, making hard choices and effecting drastic changes. Our world is driven on the wheels of change, and change is born when challenges marry good decisions.

6. Set smart goals.

Work with a sense of purpose and priority. A purposeless life is a meaningless life. Innovation requires intentionality. Have a crystal clear purpose for the product you desire to create. Your vision gives more value to your creative abilities. Write down your vision and let it be your driving force always

7. Explore new territories.

Learn from other people’s experiences and tap from their expertise but desire to be a pacesetter. There is nothing new under the sun, but there are newer, better and smarter versions of existing things. Have a mentor but carve a unique niche. Having a coach should not stop you from having a different approach.

© Adeleke Adeite

What steps are you taking to hone your creative skills? Share them with me in the comment section, I’d love to learn from you too. Thanks for reading. I love you ❤❤

As Simple as ABC

One of the easiest lies to tell is “I AM FINE.” A lot of people have this statement as an autoresponder whenever they are asked how they are doing. Some folks try hard to hide their pains because they are tired of being a burden to their friends and family.

Right now you could be working with someone who has lost everything and trying hard not to lose hope. Watch your actions and reactions around them.
Be sensitive.

Right now, you could be standing next to someone who is broke and broken yet trying hard not to become complete wreckage. Whatever you do, do it with compassion.
Be considerate.

Right now, you could be driving beside someone, who is dealing with secret storms yet trying hard not to give up. Whatever you do, do it with tolerance.
Be patient.

This hour, you could be sitting next to someone who doing their best not to drown in the ocean of depression. Whatever you say, say it with kindness.
Be compassionate.

Today, you could be waiting in line behind someone striving to heal from a terrible heartbreak or dealing with the grief of losing a loved one. Whatever you say, say it with love
Be empathetic.

Speak the language of love and light over everyone. Let peace and patience guide your activities and interactions. Everyone is at different levels of life, fighting different devils.

We don’t know what someone is struggling with, we don’t know how close they are to giving up completely. Hence, we need to look at everyone through the lens of tolerance and kindness.

We sometimes need to pay attention to the plight of others and do all we can to dispense hope, healing and happiness to them.
You don’t know how much a simple compliment, a hug, a smile or an encouraging text would do to help someone recover from a life-threatening experience.

Spread kindness everywhere, be an anchor to sinking souls.
Dispense compliments generously, be a fountain of healing to thirsty souls.

Love out loud, be a blissful balm to bleeding souls around you.

Be generous with hugs, they have healing powers.
Sprinkle sweet smiles intentionally, they are communicable.

In a world where you can be anything, choose to be affectionate, blissful and cheerful. I think that’s as simple as ABC.

© Adeleke Adeite