Signature of Strength

I just want to let you know
that you are a signature of strength.
Through life’s ebb and flow
you do not sit in the citadel of stealth.

Like a city set on a hill
you bask in the ambience of beauty.
With your special skill
you resonate the radiance of reality.

You are a real and ready writer,
your words stir our soul like stimulant.
Like a firm and focused fighter
you seek to remain joyful and jubilant.

Abekshally, my sis-star,
you burn yourself to brew brightness.
Stronger than your scars,
you storm life’s stage with sweetness.
© Adeleke Adeite 2019

Dedicated to Mary Olaseni, a sister and pen friend whose bravery and beauty inspire me a lot. Her story, struggle and strength remind me of how the rainbow steps out in style of rainfall… Keep thriving dear.


Courage to Conquer

Life is beautiful and wonderful yet, it is important to note that life is not fair. I often tell my friends that life has never been fair and it will never be fair. Our consolation is that God is forever faithful. If we focus on God’s faithfulness and not life’s unfairness, we will eventually flourish no matter the number of times we fail.

Charles Spurgeon said, ‘I owe more to the fire, and the hammer, and the file, than to anything else in my Lord’s workshop.’

A lot of times, when we say someone is on fire, we really think we are praising such a person for being passionate and powerful but we don’t pay attention to the fire he or she may be passing through. Before a flower can become beautiful, it must have survived scourging sunshine and terrible raindrops.

Pain is part of the party of life. However, every pain has a pleasant purpose, the problem is that we sometimes focus on our pains so much that we don’t even want to believe that something beautiful can come out of our painful experiences. It is so interesting that no one wants to die but they want to be in paradise.

Fire is one of the most significant elements on earth, it is a symbol of passion, power and purity. These three qualities (passion, power and purity) are desirable but the process of attaining them is sometimes undesirable. The reason why there are a lot of suicide cases in recent times is because there are a lot of people in this generation who cannot stand the fire, flame and flood of life.

I once read a research paper on how the sun in the sky derives its capacity to shine. I found out that the sun is actually a collection of massive gas especially hydrogen and helium, it keeps shining because it keeps burning itself. So if you have seen a gas explosion before, you can imagine what the sun does to itself in order to generate power. The sun warms the earth, provides light for us to see and also contributes vitally to the survival of plants and humans. All of these would not have been possible if the sun does not burn itself.

A lot of people wants to become stars but they don’t want to feel heat. Some kinds blessings and beauty require fire, flood and flame, just as raw gold must go through heat to get refined.

Victory does not come by chance, it comes by making the right choices and turning challenges into opportunities to make positive changes.

So how can one cope and conquer in the furnace of life.

1) Have a connection with the refiner which is God: God wants to help you survive through the fire and flood of life. Learn to lean on Him.

2) Be in a community of encouragers: if your friends are not your mentors, they will be your tormentors. Always be in the midst of people who see, say and seek good things for you.

3) Watch what you read, view and listen to: the kind of books you read, movies you watch and songs you listen to will go a long way to either encourage you or damage your confidence.

In conclusion, life will always knock you down, it’s up to you to pick yourself up with prayers and keep pursuing your dreams. Life will only knock out the man who stops fighting to stand. Successful people are not people without pains but those who keep converting their pains to gains.

Those who focus on gains will eventually flourish but those who focus on pains may perish except they change. Courage requires change in perspective, conquering in life requires prayers, passion, persistency, confidence and positive connection.

© Adeleke Adeite 2019

If Seeds Could Speak

Many years ago, when I was still a teenager, on a fateful Saturday I accompanied my mom to visit a lady who was an AIDS patient in one of the most ‘dreaded’ hospitals in Lagos, Nigeria.
As at the time we got to the hospital, the lady could no longer speak audibly. My mom comforted her with words and asked me to introduce Christ to her and also pray for her, which I did. She gave her life to Christ and I assured her that Jesus could heal her.

The next day while I was preparing to go to church, we got a news that the lady had died in the early hours of that day. Can you imagine how I felt back then?

One of the mysteries of life is that a lot of times, we enjoy beautiful and sweet things that we don’t really qualify for. Some other times we have to endure bitter and ugly stuffs that we think we don’t really deserve.
In all of this, is God is still God and is He still good?

Sometimes, I wonder why women still want to get pregnant despite the fact that they know the kind of discomfort and pains they might go through during pregnancy. It would be almost foolish for anyone to ask a question like… why would a husband allow the wife he loves so much to get pregnant in the first place knowing fully well that the woman would go through the pressure of pregnancy and the pain of child delivery?

If some of us were to be seeds, I mean SEEDS, we would wonder why a farmer would pick us from a clean sack where we feel cool and safe only for him to bury us alive in a dark and dirty soil!

The soil suitable for ‘burying seeds’ doesn’t smell nice, it’s a place of breaking, crushing and pressing; it’s also a place of death, darkness and decay yet farmers gladly put seeds in this terrible condition. Why? Do you think seeds deserves to die?

When I started primary education in the early 90s, I didn’t like going to school. I focused on the pain and pressure of learning so much that I failed to see the essence of education.

I probably thought to myself, “I am here to enjoy family, friends, food and fun”. Why would my parents keep making me go to a place where I don’t feel comfortable?

A lot of us are like this, we fail to see our bright and beautiful end because we are missing the very essence of our present pains and pressure.

Some of us are yet to realize that the most dangerous zone on earth is comfort zone.

If seeds could speak, some of them would curse farmers for burying them to die and decay just because they are ignorant of the fact that after the dying season, there is a season of bursting forth, blooming and bringing forth fruits all things being equal.

God is a very creative movie director, and suspense is one of the tools He uses the most. Just as some movies leave us with more questions than answers so is the movie of life too. You are like the seed, you are not buried in darkness to die, you don’t have to curse God or cry in despair. God is not blind to your pains, He has a plan and purpose for every pressure. For you don’t enjoy peace and calmness, ask less questions about your situation and seek to know His purposes. Even if you don’t get answers, wisdom requires trusting the Faithful Farmer.

How to Trust More and Tear up Less:

  1. Read God’s words and other inspiring books.
  2. Seek godly counsel in all situations
  3. Plug into a community of confident and courageous soul.
  4. Count your blessings and always remember your past victories.
  5. Love God and know Him more. If you know Him, you know the answer to all questions

So before you ask God the next series of ‘whys’. Ask yourself this question, if I didn’t ask God to create me, what authority do we have to question His actions? If we can’t accept the fact that God knows all, He doesn’t have to sell the right to be Omniscience to any man, He owns the sole right!

Is it not wise for you to just accept both the unanswered questions and the answers He gives when you don’t even have questions.

© Adeleke Adeite 2019

A Fantastic Father

I celebrate you dear father
for paving my path to planet earth
and for truly loving me before birth.

I celebrate you dear father
because you catch me before I fall,
you are there to answer before I call.

I celebrate you dear father
not because you are a flawless man
but because you are a fantastic man…

I celebrate you dear father
because you are a marvelous model
and an adorable guardian angel.

I pray for you dear father
that you will enjoy strength
and always experience sound health.

I pray for you dear father
that you will live in faith and freedom
and always walk in wealth and wisdom.

I pray for you dear father
that you will fly high and flourish;
your legacy of love will never vanish.

I celebrate you dear father
for giving me a marvelous mother,
and for my sister and brothers.

I celebrate you father,
because you taught me to pray
whenever it seems I’ve lost my way.

I celebrate you dear father
for being a great replica of God,
a fatherhood beyond flesh and blood.
© Adeleke Adeite 2019

What’s A Lie?

A lie is a life without focus
A lie is a life without faith
A lie is a life without faithfulness
A lie is a life without fulfillment.

A lie is a law without force
A lie is a race without course
A lie is a scream without sound
A lie is a sky without cloud

A lie is a paint without colour
A lie is a gravesite without corpse
A lie is a garden without flowers
A lie is a rain without showers…
© Adeleke Adeite 2019

The Love You Give

The love You give me is endless
So I won’t ever live for less…
The life You gave me is priceless
So I won’t ever make a mess…

The truth You tell me is timeless,
I won’t try to second guess…
The joy You give me is limitless
So I am forever fearless.

The grace You show me is excess,
It erodes my toughest mess.
The force of my faith is reckless
No foe can hurt or oppress.

The hope you gave me is flawless
I will never feel hopeless.
The help You gave me is countless
I will never feel cheerless.

I have this one thing to confess
I feel very proud to profess…
I didn’t write this piece to impress
but to proclaim your faithfulness.

© Adeleke Adeite 2018

Before You Attempt Suicide

There is success on the other side of failure
I know this because I have been there before.
So, to kill yourself after failing one examination
is to give an abnormal solution to a normal situation.

Instead to sinking in sorrow and stressing,
you should calm down and count your blessings.
Stormy situations come for a reason and a season
Don’t push yourself into a permanent prison.

You may have been disappointed a million times
but don’t ever commit suicide, it’s a cruel crime.
There are over seven billion people on earth,
Try one billion persons before you think of death…

Some situations can be serious and mysterious
but my dear, this life is priceless and precious.
You may feel helpless and hopeless today
but I can assure you that great help on the way.

Last week, I was so broke and emotionally broken,
Everyone I talked to acted as if I haven’t spoken.
One evening I started thinking of suicide as an option
but then I decided to cry and sing about my situation.

While I was singing I decided to talk to God again
to see if there is another cure for my pain,
I got a nudge to open up to one more person
and I got everything I wanted without stressing.

Before you attempt suicide, try to sing or scream
remember your goals and that beautiful dream…
Don’t turn yourself to a slave of seasonal sorrow
Stay strong today to see a brighter tomorrow.

© Adeleke Adeite 2019

Snapping Out of Writer’s Block

Writer’s block is nothing but a big shadow, the real giant that needs to fall is writing nothing at all. As I take you on this refreshing adventure, you need to understand that in creative writing, a broken pen is better than a buried pen.

So, what is writer’s block,

Some folks call it creative constipation while some sees it as a state of ‘psychological slowdown’. it can be a very frustrating experience so there’s no need to dignify it with a definition.

The common causes of writer’s block and its cure will make more sense if we can first identify the different categories of writers.

I think there are three categories of writers, where you belong will determine the degree of writer’s block you will experience. Below are the categories of writers I know:

Emotional writers: these are those who write mostly when they ‘feel’ like writing. They need to be moved by certain emotions such as love, fear, heartbreak, victory, frustration or any other random muse. This category of writers may suffer constant writer’s block because they feel blank whenever the emotions that trigger them to write are absent.

Occasional Writers: this category of writers are those who only write whenever they feel ‘inspired’ to write or any time they get roused either by responsibility or reward. Occasional writers also suffer writer’s block often because they will have to wait for a push before they put ‘pen to paper’.

Intentional writers: I choose to tag great great writers ‘intentional writers’ and not professional writers. These folks consistently crave a high level of expertise, experience and exposure, hence they really don’t need to be prompted to write. They look for every opportunity to write. Becoming an intentional writers require a whole lot of craving, commitment and consistency. These category hardly experience writer’s block because they look out for inspiration in every situation.

Causes of writer’s block are not the same for all writers. Its different strokes for different folks. However, some common causes of writer’s block may include:

  • Past criticism: due to previous negative feedbacks or poor acceptance of your work, you may feel unworthy to write. This happens mostly to budding writers.
  • Pressures of life: sometimes writers get preoccupied with issues that are basically non-creative and uninspiring, hence they lose connection with their muse.
  • Pessimism: some writers have fear of rejection, they ask questions like “what if no one likes this piece?” “does this really make sense?” “this piece may not be trendy” and so on. It is important to note that creativity crashes under the weight of many confusing question.
  • Poor timing: different seasons of life comes with different spices. It is important to know when you need to relax, recharge and refill. The fact that you cannot write at a particular time may be a call for reflection
  • Perfectionism: The more you push delete buttons or pile up uncompleted drafts in the the name of waiting for the right/perfect ideas, the more it’s likely you slide into psychological slowdown.

Irrespective of the cause of your creative constipation, some simple steps to overcoming writer’s block include:

See writing as a means of self expression and not just a means of creating beautiful impression: writing is about letting loose the prisoners in your head and heart, it doesn’t have to ‘please’ the readers at all times. Nonsense is better than no sense when it comes to writing.

Take a creative tour: read a book, listen to music, see movies and look out for phrases or words that can strike a cord in your soul. You may also take a short walk in serene places.

Connect with your creative characters: if you have been writing for a while, you should know the factors that easily fuel your fire to write, for me, it’s short quotes and phrases. All I need sometimes is just a beautiful alliteration and a whole article is set with the help of God. If you don’t know your character(s) yet, study yourself and create one.

Trash distractions: avoid uninspiring activities, associates and addictions (if any).

Relax, refresh, recharge and research: take a break from writing just to break forth into writing. Don’t always set out to write, set out to get inspired and writing will flow naturally.

Create a writing routine: you may try Yourquote app, it’s a very good application that can help you with this. There are daily challenges and prompts given on the platform that can help you beat writer’s block.

Switch or spice up your environment: your social and physical environment plays a pivotal role in your creative cruise. So create the right physical and social environment.

The steps to overcoming writer’s block are inexhaustible. However, I hope you find the above tips useful.
Thank you.

© Adeleke Adeite 2019

Before You Criticise

Before you criticise,
remove the log in your own eyes.
My best decisions may seem unwise
but yours may be dross in disguise.

Before you raise alarm amiss,
Rid your good points of paralysis
Because I won’t let your lame analysis
Make me plunder my inner bliss…

Before your words encroach…
Why not try a different approach
Instead or being a source of reproach
Just learn to be a silent coach…

If you have high mental strength,
Think twice and take a deep breath,
You too can be the salt of the earth…
Bring healing and not emotional death.

© Adeleke Adeite 2019

Not The Same Old Story

You may not know that He loves you
but I know all what He did for you.
He left His angel armies in paradise
To singlehandedly save the unwise…

He was born a king in a mere manger
Yet not dethroned even in danger
He dared to display the miraculous
Even when He faced the ridiculous…

Mere men stepped on His holy toes
His close friends became His foes…
A blessed man cursed on the cross
He lifted our loads of lies and loss…

He was wounded for our misdeeds.
He was starved to supply your needs
The savior of men became a slave
To kill guilt and conquer the grave…

He survived life’s flames and flood
victory was won through His blood.
He broke our shackles and set us free
The dead now live, the blind now see.

He bled and died to take our shame,
Hence, all knees will bow in His name.
And when He said that it is finished,
our endless victory was established.

His sacrifice is not the same old story
He paid the price to give us new glory
Now you see how much He loves you
With love so tender, timeless and true
© Adeleke Adeite 2019