I don’t chase love, since the day I chose life, love has been chasing me down. He lights up shadows, kicks down barricades, tears down contentions, walks on stormy seas, and climb up ageless hills coming after me. In Love, I live. In Love, I move, and have my being. Why should I chase the Love that lives in me.
A few months ago, I went through a severe storm that almost made me drown in depression again.
What kept me afloat was the last strand of my faith in God. I have lost many friends in the process, I felt completely lost and lonely. I became weak and weary. I kept my eyes on mountain tops even in the darkest rock bottom.
Life became a dark tale of pain and pressure but through it all, I held onto God, He kept me safe and made me sail through without losing my joy. In the midst of it all, His love became more real to me, His light guided me, and His joy was my strength. I am still healing. I am still believing in God for total restoration. My faith still stands in the deep.
In all of this, I have learned to be thankful even when I’m going through hell and high water. God knows, God sees, God hears. Thank you for reading.
Be encouraged my friends. Praise Him even in your pains.
Self-esteem, also known as self-worth, is the impression people have of themselves. The feeling of being valuable and liked. Your self-esteem involves a variety of notions about yourself, such as your appearance, your emotions and how you measure your achievements or failures.
Over the years, I have had seasons when I doubted my worth. Days when I feel unloved and unworthy of life. In some of these moments, by divine providence, some of my friends send nice notes to me in the form of testimonials, quotes, poems or compliments. This helps me to connect to my core and also realise that I am not as worthless as I feel in my darkest hours.
I will be sharing some of these testimonials in my new blog series ‘Tapestry of Testimonials’. Enjoy these beautiful pieces written by my amazing sister and friend from the Philippines, Alerma Grace. We met on Yourquote.in and grew to become best friend’s. I call her my Sweet Sister Bear (SSB)
How do you deal with low self-esteem? Do you think validation from others helps to boost self-esteem?
I was sauntering, desperately searching for perfection, I got broken while passionately trying to fix this perpetual puzzle. Who said there is a missing piece? Who said I need some unravelling? I wish I had known that I am enough and everything I crave is within me.
Struggling to prove my worth, I became blind to my uniqueness. Some said a facelift is all I needed to finally find and deploy my gift. Who said I am broken beyond fixing? Who said I need to be flawless? I wish I had known that I am enough and everything I crave is within me
Craving for validation, I became a slave to conditional love starved of authentic attention till I became bereft of inner bliss. Now I filter people’s opinion about me with the lens of pure love and light. I wish I had known that I am enough and everything I crave is within me.
I always get tempted to worry about the things I can’t change, but at the end of the day, I discover that there has been a ready-made solutionn for those things, and my worry was worthless.
We all get tempted to worry about certain situations on our lives, and it seems Covid has made anxiety a more acceptable way of dealing with issues.
However, we all must realise that the major difference between worry and concern is this: a worried person tries to carry a mountain, and a concerned person tries to climb a mountain.
This reminds me of this old parable.
Death walked toward a certain city. The watchman of the city stopped Death and asked, “What are you going to do? “I am going to kill 20 thousand people,” said Death. The watchman went into the city immediately and warned as many people as he could. The next day, it was reported that 80 thousand people had died.
The man met Death again later that day and said, “You told me that you were going to kill 20 thousand people, but 80 thousand people died yesterday.” Death replied, “I only killed 20 thousand people, the other 60 thousand were killed by worry and panic”.
Anytime I have cause to worry, I remind myself that worry is not only a waste of time but the graveyard where peace and joy are buried. Why should I worry when I’m not a mortician?
Seven Features of Worry.
Worry is a profitless pressure. Like a rocking chair, worry will give you an activity to do, without a real achievement to show for it. It offers motion without movement.
Worry is a pointless pursuit: If you treat every stormy situation as a matter of life and death matter, you will live once and die a lot of times. We are born again every day, we all have more than one life to live: the good life, the better life, the sweet life, the old life, the new life, the impactful life, the beautiful life. Add yours. Life is vast.
Worry is a pitiable prison. Don’t turn a problem into a perpetual prison. Worry traps people in their old truth and stops them from rewriting their old story. Worry prevents people from enforcing necessary endings and enjoying new beginnings.
Worry is a painful paradise. The looming tragedies that worry projects are imaginary. They are not certain. Your worst fear may never happen at all.
Worry is a pathetic pastime. A pity party is not fun at all. No person will come knocking at your door asking to join your worry hang out. Worry puts you in a position where you feel comfortable with confusion and complications.
Worry is a pressure cooker. Worry saps a great deal of a person’s emotional energy and can leave him completely drained and depressed.
Worry is a parasitic partner. Worry never solves a thing, it makes you focus on the things that has gone wrong, and how they can get worse. Worry robs people of their peace, sleep, joy, hope, faith and love, and sometimes, it saps the life out of them.
How To Win Over Worry.
Tackle the trigger. Identify the root cause of your worry and find resources or people that can help you deal with it. The antidote to your greatest worry is sometimes just a call, a counsellor, a click away.
Fix your focus. Your priority matters. What you pay attention to will determine what you get. Life is operated on the ‘Pay As You Go’ system. If you pay attention to solution, you will get it.
Partner with Peace. Peace is not the absence of trouble but the presence of God during troubles. We cannot control everything but we can create a system that sustains peace in the storm. Piece is always present but we need to position ourselves to enjoy it.
Pay attention to God’s promises. We do not hold the world in our hands, but if we can hold the hands of the God who holds the world, we will be safe. Life’s storm rages on its course, thriving through it all depends on our staying power and what we pay attention to. “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast because they trust in you.” Isaiah 26:3.
Pray and Play with passion. Worry often makes people pray less. However, you don’t have to do long hours of prayers to snap out if worry. Panic is a wrong response to the things you can’t control. Prayer is the right response to things under God’s control. Take time to have fun too. Like people say around here “Problems don’t finish”. Success is a product of problems.
Arise and Affirm Study God’s words and find out the promises that take care of the problems you may be facing. Speak love, speak life, speak blessings and speak victory over yourself. You can get a copy of Whispers of Winners here for daily doses of affirmations that keep worries at bay.
Hey friends, say hello to my first collaboration with my friend from S.A. Theodore Ndlovu
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