Half-full or Half-empty

2020 started with high hopes and beautiful dreams, we all couldn’t wait to achieve our Vision2020.

Then Covid came, and it crushed the beautiful plans and projections of many folks. Widespread protest shootings and lootings disrupted many dreams; not forgetting the total lockdown and how it locked down many businesses.

This year has been different strokes for different folks but, no matter what life has thrown at you, there is a reason to be grateful for life.

Stop swimming in sorrow when happiness is free; pay attention to the blessings within you, the beauty around you and the brighter days ahead of you.

Give thanks for the good days, when smiles and sweetness flood your soul.
When great testimonies and songs of praises fill your mouth.

Give thanks for the hard days, when troubles and trials tear your heart apart. When it’s hard to wake up and you feel like giving up the fight.

Give thanks for friends and family, for fathers, mothers, sons and daughters,  everyone that reminds you that love is all that matters.

Give thanks for foes and frienemies, those who hate and hurt you for known and unknown reasons; because the stones they throw at you are your stepping stones to greater heights.

Give thanks for daily benefits, for weekly bonuses and monthly incomes. Be grateful for the businesses and career that put food on your table.

Give thanks for the heartbreaking emails and the painful loses. Be grateful for the pay cut and unpaid debts; knowing that every closed door is a redirection to bigger and better possibilities.

Give thanks for the raindrops falling from the skies, and for the teardrops falling from your eyes. Knowing that your secret storms and the fiery furnace of life are blessings in disguise.

Give thanks for every weakness and brokenness that makes you run to God for help, and for every fear and frustration that makes you fall on your knees to pray.

Give thanks, for God, is your strength and your salvation, the One who gives you rest and restoration, Be grateful for His redemption and revelation, and how He delivered your soul from destruction.

Give thanks, that despite the pandemic and the pain ravaging our world, God has been your sanitizer. His blood is the greatest vaccine that killed every virus on the cross of Calvary.

Give thanks for everything that came against you to steal your joy and peace, for they remind you that God is the prince of peace.

Give thanks for the valley of the shadow of death, and for the tunnels that remind you that God is with you, as a mighty and merciful One who will never leave nor forsake you.

Give thanks, for all things bright and beautiful, and for everything that made you sad and sorrowful, knowing fully well,  that all things work together for good to them that love the Lord, who are called according to His purpose.

Give thanks, because you still have greater victories to win, bigger territories to take, better stories to write and more mountains to conquer. I know the journey is tough and you are thirsty, but whether your cup is half-full or half-empty, be grateful that you cup that’s not empty. Drink what you have and be joyful.

Give thanks to the Lord, always, and again I say, give thanks.
Thank you.

Hey friends, I believe that you’ve been inspired to be grateful. Share three things you are grateful for in the comment section. Thank you for reading.

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Born to Bloom

They buried us in unmarked graves,
We turned the graves into gardens.
We are not dead slaves
but sacred seeds buried to bloom.

We were thrown into the fire
but we came out with sparkles.
We are not a complete wreckage
but nascent gems with crinkles.

We were pressed and crushed,
we bled and became exotic wine.
Painful processes we endure
knowing that we were born to bloom.

A lot of things seem to have drained life out of many people this year: pandemic, protests, politics, police brutality, loses, looting, lockdown, mental health challenges, fear of failure, fear of success and other strange storms that featured in this movie called 2020.

I have a feeling that a lot of people have given up on the year already. However, there is another group of people who believe that 2020 is their year of boom, bloom, bliss and boon. My friends, no matter how the year has been, I want you to know that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s an opportunity to succeed. War is not the absence of peace but an avenue to attain victory.

Don’t allow fear and frustration deny you of the beauty and blessings within and around you. Dare to sing, smile and celebrate your small wins…

Relax, reflect, rejoice & raise your voice in appreciation, being alive is a big win. Happy new month!
© Adeleke Adeite

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Kindly share your views about this year in the comment section. What’s your biggest lesson and blessing in 2020?

Hugs and Handshakes

In a world of pressure and pain,
We need doses of healing and hope.
In a world of struggles and strain,
We need doses of courage to cope.

In a world of flame, fury and flood,
We need doses of rest and restoration.
In a world of bullets, bars and blood,
We need doses of and affection.

In a world of fears and frustration,
We need doses of hug and handshakes.
In a world of death and destruction,
We need doses affection and all it takes.

It is believed that hugs may not only have healing powers, but actually help protect against stress and negative emotions caused by interpersonal conflict.

When people continually commit to interpersonal touch such as hugs and handshakes, it oftentimes improve their sense of wellbeing and leads to healthy relationships.

Today, lend a hand of healing and hope to someone in distress. Save a soul, someone needs your touch to survive and thrive.

If you can’t use your hands, use your head, if you can’t use your head, use your heart, we all have what it takes to make the world a better place. Cognition, compassion and character count!

©Adeleke Adeite.

Dealing With Depression

I have been there before – the valley of death where men get seared without smelling like smoke; no scar or bruises to show that you are burning down emotionally.

I was depressed for many years, and I can tell the taste of hopelessness especially when it is cooked with fear, failures and frustration. Many years in the dungeon of deep depression, far beyond feeling, I came face-to-face with a force that turns physical giants to emotional ants.

Depression defies definition, it goes beyond expression. Don’t try to define it.

No one snaps out of depression. However, no matter how cancerous it may be, it is fixable. Depression is not a death sentence.

Unlike sadness, depression is not a symptom, it’s a systemic disorder that defies physical strength, material wealth, social status and intelligence.

It’s a heated hole that needs to filled and chilled with affection, right association and medical attention as the case may be. Depressed individuals need more than healing, they need to find the meaning of their miseries, and that meaning and deal with its roots

According to mayorclinic.org, depression is a mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest and can interfere with human’s daily functioning. In as much as this definition may not fully capture what depression is all about, it indicates that depression is a disorder.

You can’t tell a depressed person to just snap out of it, but you can help them walk out of it as a winner. I will like to share certain facts that you need to know about depression and how to walk out of it. Let’s go on a poetic cruise.

Depression is difficult to define,
It’s clearly beyond not feeling fine.
A depressed person may feel nothing
But weep within about everything.

Depression has deep dimensions,
it goes beyond facial expressions.
A depressed man can still smile
while his faith gets more fragile.

Depression clearly isn’t sadness,
It’s the grave of guts and gladness.
A depressed man isn’t really weak,
He is tired of trying not to be weak.

Depression is pain without purpose,
It’s a thorn that reeks just like a rose.
A depressed man basks in bitterness
Yet swims in the stream of sweetness.

Depression is beyond what and why.
Do you ask onions why people cry?
Depression is a system, not a symptom.
Dealing with it requires great wisdom.

Depression is beyond being emotional,
To get better requires being intentional.
Despair has an end, don’t quit trying,
That death-voice in your head is lying…

Depression is more like a secret storm,
It makes a strong man live like a worm.
Despair doesn’t kill, helplessness does.
Seek help, speak out, silence that buzz.

How and Where To Get Help

Help is always available but you must be willing to be reachable and vulnerable. Get access to the right people or give access to the right people
Here are a few other tips.

If depression is a disorder, then it means the ‘disrupted’ order needs to be restored.

In the beginning of creation, the earth was without form and void, darkness covered the whole earth – depression look-alike. But God commanded light and order into the void and dark world.

Turning to God in prayer will set the foundation for healing. However, healing from depression is a process that requires human connection, affection and medical attention in some cases. A depressed person may need to see an emotions doctor. Below are a few tips that can also help:

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/coping-with-depression.htm
https://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/coping-with-depression.htm

Depression is not a death sentence. It is a mental health issue that can be solved, cured and defied. Don’t die trying to be strong all by yourself. Live out loud, love out loud, lead out loud.
© Adeleke Adeite 2020

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To get more tips visit https://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/coping-with-depression.htm