Heartily Single Happily Married

I was having an online conversation with a beautiful young lady some days ago, she aired her views on marriage and relationships. Then she made a statement commonly expressed by some single ladies in this part of the world “marriage is not an achievement”. It was a good opportunity for me to give her some lectures on life and love.

When a person exerts a lot of physical, mental and emotional effort to make something work, it would be wrong for anyone to say what the person has done is not an achievement.

Don’t be misled, marriage is an achievement especially when two people work together to build a lovely, peaceful and beautiful family.
If an achievement is a thing done successfully with effort, skill, or strength, then a working/growing marriage is an achievement.

A great union is a medal of honour. In a world where families are failing, children are derailing and vices are prevailing, good relationships and godly homes are the antidotes to many of the troubles in our world. Family is the factory where world peace and prosperity are produced, packaged and dispensed.

However, singleness is also a great achievement. If you are single, sensible, self-reliant, serving God and humanity and not sleeping around, it’s not wrong to say that you are an achiever.

As a Christian, I believe strongly that singleness is not just status or season of life, it’s a symbol of emotional strength and social stability. Not everyone will get married – a bitter truth people fail to taste and digest. Singleness and marriage are major life choices.

Good or bad marriages don’t just happen, they are products or manners, mindsets and motives. Nothing works by itself. If anything is working, something or someone is making is work.

It takes a lot of dedication and discipline to be heartily single, it takes a lot of sacrifices and compromises to be happily married too. The prevalent high rate of divorce has proven that marriage does not guarantee happiness or fulfilment. Singleness does not confer loneliness or sadness on anyone. What makes marriage and singleness work lies in every individual.

Are you happily married or heartily single? I’d love to know your story. Share your thoughts in the comment section. Thank you for reading.

You are loved. ❤❤❤❤

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And I will make thee exceeding fruitful and I will make nations of thee and kings shall come out of thee. Genesis 17:6 By this my Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit and so prove to be my disciples. John 15:8 Declare this I am exceedingly fruitful,I bear nations and kings come forth […]

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Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times in every way. The Lord be with you all. 2Thessalonians 3:16 And may the Lord make your love for one another and for all people grow and overflow, just as our love for you overflows. 1Thessalonians 3:12 Declare this I am a […]

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But the people that do know their God shall be strong, and do exploits Daniel 11:32b It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man.Psalms 118:8 Declare this I will not grow tired and wearyI am as mount Zion that cannot movedI live a progressive lifeI gain new heights everyday […]

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Behold, I have given you authority to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing shall hurt you. Luke 10:19 You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Matthew 5:14 Declare this I have authority in ChristNo force of hell […]

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Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another. Proverbs 27:17 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. Ecclesiastes 4:9 Declare this I am surrounded with destiny helpersI find favour in the sight of menI am blessed with the gift of menAll my relationships are profitable Get a free […]

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Blessed be the Lord, who daily loadeth us with benefits, even the God of our salvation. Psalms 68:19 Commit to the Lord  whatever you do, and he will establish your plans. Proverbs 16:3 Declare this I walk in blessings and goodness everydayThe right doors are opened and the wrong doors are closed for me The works […]

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Declaration of Victory Day 24

I have set the LORD always before me: because he is at my right hand, I shall not be moved. Psalms 16:8 Cast your burden upon the Lord and He will sustain you;He will never allow the righteous to be shaken. Psalm 55:22 Declare this In all battles of life I will prevail,Devices formed against […]

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You Won’t Die Like This

Life is sweet but the truth is bitter. Life is a bed of roses, but it seems we have fast forgotten that roses have thorns and sometimes what’s beautiful can make us bleed. 

Good things happen to bad people and bad things happen for good people, but no matter how much you feel broken and battered by life.

When I became homeless last year, I got to a juncture where all hope was lost, and I told God to take my life if He doesn’t want me on earth anymore. But God, came through and now I can look back and thank God for those tough times.

Please don’t kill yourself, yes I am talking to you, my dear friend, don’t quit! I may not know your name or the flames you are going through, but whether it’s shame or blame – for the things you did or the ones you didn’t do, trust me, there is hope for you.

Your journey may be tougher and your road rougher than you can explain but you are stronger than your pains.

I know this may sound like a cliche but I’ve been there before – the valley of death where strong men feel lifeless, helpless & hopeless. The dungeon where fear and frustration feel closer than a friend. However, that prison is not a place of residence.

God formed you in His image for a time like this, you are not a slave to sorrow, sadness and satanic oppression. You are not created to drown in the dungeon of depression. Stop listening to the lying voices in your head.

You are not your past mistakes or present errors, you are more than conquerors. A champion made to turn challenges to channels of blessings.

Don’t let the deception and distractions of the devil steal your joy forever. God is willing to flood your heart once more with the river of joy.
I know it’s sometimes hard to let go and let God but find strength from within to go on your knees and beg God.

He is the help of the helpless and hope of the hopeless, He can fix your broken spirit and fill your soul with joy and bliss again. From those voices of shame and reproach, God can set you free. You have better and brighter days ahead of your, I pray you to begin to see.

I know there is no quick route to finding bliss but you can’t continue to live like this, and my friend, you are not going to die like this. Wipe away your tears and trade your tears for joy in the pool of prayers and positivity.

The devil wants you to perish in the prison of disgrace but God wants to plant you in the garden of grace.

Please don’t do it, don’t take your life, there is an end to this storm and strife. Death is not a termination but a transition, if you kill yourself I bet you will regret it because what awaits on the other side of suicide is worse than the pains and pressures of life.

Don’t believe the lie that it’s better to die.

If you think you are alone in the fight, you are wrong. Many people including me have gone through this valley and came out strong. Reach out to God and godly people around you, go on your knees and beg God to see you through.

I know it’s sometimes hard to pray because you don’t know what to say but God can hear your heart and the tales of your tears. Talk to Him every way you can, He can hear your silent scream.

God is mighty to save, It’s time to shift your focus and look unto Jesus if you don’t know him yet, it’s time to accept him. He died shamefully and rose again triumphantly so you won’t have to die in shame.

His love is strong enough to lift you out of hopelessness. His light is bright enough to lead you out of the darkness and His life. Cast your care upon Him for He cares for you.

If you desire to know more you can reach me via adelekeadeite@gmail.com

I strongly recommend that you speak victory over yourself and everything around you. Get a free copy of Whisper of Winners here, it’s a compilation of daily affirmations. Feel free to share with your friends

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I can do all things through him who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13 For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. 2 Timothy 1:7 Declare this My mind is sharp and focusedI refuse to let anything distract me from my goalsI am courageousNothing will ever stop me Get […]

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