There are times we feel hurt, hopeless and helpless. Life throws bricks at us to break our hearts and fight our faith. In stormy seasons like this, our strength and skills seem worthless. We tend to believe that it’s either prayers are not working or God is not listening.
I have been through such situations in recent times, I was tempted to ask, “where is God?” I stopped breathing for days. I couldn’t feel myself, God seems so distant, I drowned in feelings of defeat, disappointments, denial and delay that I was dealing with.
In stretching my faith, I prayed, praised, worshipped, cried and pleaded but things appeared to get more out of my control. In all of these, a still small voice kept on telling me that I was not buried to die but ‘buried to bloom‘.
I began to ruminate of the lives of Bible characters such as Joseph, David, Job, Esther and Jesus. These great characters faced tough situations that made it look like they were forgotten and forsaken, but God -the ever faithful One came through for them.
When you feel buried, broken or battered by the battles of life. When you feel stranded, stuck and surrounded by the storm of life. Don’t feel dismayed or despondent, God may be using the storm to strengthen you. He sometimes uses battles to build, bless and beautify our lives.
Dear broken heart, I may not know what you are going through but I know that tough times are temporary seasons that come with a lesson and a blessing. Here are some ways to hold on and stay strong in the storm.
Find support from genuine and godly friends and family.
Study God’s word, study plans on ‘hope’ would help.
Pray even when you don’t feel like, ask friend a to join you in prayers.
Listen to songs and sermons that will stir up your faith
Discard depressing thoughts and materials.
Take a break from social media (platforms) or anything that may fuel frustration.
Talk to Godand talk to people who can help.
Listen and be on the look out, God is with you and He is whispering words of faith to you.
Feel free to say these poetic prayers.
Dear God, Help me to see your hand when life’s flame floods my eyes. Help me to daily understand that You are wonderful and wise.
Dear God, Help me to walk in wisdom to know what’s perfect to do. Help me to flow in freedom to lead a life that’s true.
Dear God, Let me not turn to sin for relief no matter how tough life gets. Save me from gloom and grief no matter how sorrow besets.
Dear God, Help me to know that I am not buried in darkness to die. Help to know that I am favoured, fortified and free to fly.
Finally, here is an admonition to everyone going through troubles. “For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever!” 2 Corinthians 4:17
I have been there before, the valley of death where you get burnt without smelling like smoke; no scar or bruises to show that you are burning down emotionally.
I was depressed for many years, and I can tell the taste of hopelessness especially when it is cooked with fear, failures and frustration. Many years in the dungeon of deep depression, far beyond feeling, I came face-to-face with a force that turns physical giants to emotional ants.
Depression defies definition, it goes beyond expression. Don’t try to define it.
No one snaps out of depression. Yet, no matter how cancerous it may be, it is fixable. Unlike sadness, depression is not a symptom, it’s a systemic disorder that defies physical strength, social status and intelligence.
It’s a heated hole that needs to filled and chilled with love and medical attention as the case may be. Depressed individuals need more than healing, they need to find the meaning of their miseries, and that meaning can be found in the dictionary of love, care and proper attention.
According to mayorclinic.org, depression is a mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest and can interfere with human’s daily functioning. In as much as this definition may not fully capture what depression is all about, it indicates that depression is a disorder.
You can’t tell a depressed person to just snap out of it, but you can help them walk out of it. I will like to share certain facts that you need to know about depression and how to walk out of it. Let’s go on a poetic cruise.
Depression is difficult to define, It’s surely beyond not feeling fine. A depressed person feels nothing But weeps within about everything.
Depression has deep dimensions, it goes beyond facial expressions. A depressed man can still smile while his faith gets more fragile.
Depression clearly isn’t sadness, It’s the grave of guts and gladness. A depressed man isn’t really weak, He is tired of trying not to be weak.
Depression is pain without purpose, It’s a thorn that reeks just like a rose. A depressed man basks in bitterness Yet swims in the stream of sweetness.
Depression is beyond what and why. Do you ask onions why people cry? Depression is a system, not a symptom. Dealing with it requires great wisdom.
Depression is beyond being emotional, To get better requires being intentional. Despair has an end, don’t quit trying, That death-voice in your head is lying…
Depression is more like a secret storm, It makes a strong man live like a worm. Despair doesn’t kill, helplessness does. Seek help, speak out, silence that buzz.
How and Where To Get Help
Help is always available but you must be willing to either be reachable or be vulnerable. Get access to the right people or give access to the right people Here are a few other tips.
If depression is a disorder, then it means the disrupted order needs to be restored. In the beginning of creation, the earth was without form and void, darkness covered the whole earth – depression look-alike. But God commanded light and order into the void and dark world. Turning to God in prayer will set the foundation for healing. However, healing from depression is a process that requires human connection and attention. Below are a few tips that can help: