2021 is a year I would consider a defining year for me. I started the year as a homeless and broken man striving to find hope, help, and healing. I went through diverse floods and flames.
At a particular point, I was visiting the hospital frequently till medical bills drained me financially, but through it all, God remained faithful. I lost some vital relationships but I found God in my darkest season, and He introduced me to my true self.
The crushing and pressing of 2021 made me a new wine. I rose from the ashes as pure gold. All thanks to God and the friends who were able to hear the echoes of my silence.
Here are some of the lessons I learned the hard way…
1. Rock bottom is a place of deep discovery and real recovery.
2. Sometimes you feel lost and lonely because God wants you to see Him as your one and only.
3. Be happy to miss those who make your life miserable. Be glad that they showed you that you deserve better.
4. Isolation is one of the greatest preparation for divine manifestation. A seed is buried before it blooms.
5. Sometimes, God allows enemies to surround you because He wants to prepare a table before you in their presence. Don’t focus on the troubles of life, look forward to the ‘table of triumph’.
6. God will sometimes set your comfort zone ablaze so you can move to a growth zone.
7. There is a time to give up, and there is a time to get up and grow up. Giving up is good when it’s done at the right time. We enjoy new beginnings when we enforce necessary endings.
8. Quit! Quit paying attention to the things draining your peace and joy.
9. Two people you must avoid: the people you cannot help and those that can’t help you become a better person. (This has nothing to do with material gains)
10. God can restore wasted years and wipe away fiery tears.
11. Don’t rush into relationships, don’t force friendships. Build yourself to attract valuable and vibrant relationships.
12. Be valuable enough to stand alone. Be responsible enough to attract support.
14. Every season comes with lessons and blessings. Gratitude gives you access to blessings while positive attitude helps you maximize the lessons in every season.
15. Your darkest season may be preparing for your brightest sparkle.
17. You can’t pray away certain pains when you a pregnant with purpose. Prayer will only give you the peace and patience to grow through the painful process.
18. A prosperous life starts with a positive and productive mind.
19. No one owes you anything. You owe yourself everything. Keep growing till you become a magnet of resourceful relationships.
20. You are made to manifest but there are times you need to be hidden in the place of preparation.
21. Your words shape your world. Don’t declare defeat when the fight is still on. Win with words.
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Hello friends, it’s been a while. I trust you all are doing great. I’ve been in the valley of decision and transition for a while. I’m believing God for more opportunities to share great contents here soonest.
I was inspired to share some lessons I have learnt in the valley of decisions earlier today. I am sure we all have some hard-learned lessons and hard-earned blessings in our darkest hours.
I have come to realise that most times, the people with the sweetest smiles and biggest blessings in public are those who have shed a million tears and made hard choices secretly.
Before we covet people’s fruit we must seek to know the kind of seed, seasons and struggles that produced their harvest. Great harvests don’t just happen. Some folks go through hell and high water before occupying their place in grace.
Some blessings are not just answered prayers or products of ‘grace’ (luck), they are rewards of strenuous sacrifices and hard choices.
God is a God of principles, you can’t manipulate Him with prayers. Some things are activated with strict obedience, diligence and resilience.
This does not mean that prayer is not necessary, in fact, prayer supplies the strength l, wisdom and grace required to sustain the blessings of God.
However, we must embrace the wisdom to combine prayer, faith and action in the right proportion. In knowing this, be encouraged and empowered to excel. I would like to share one of my anchor-scriptures with you.
In his kindness God called you to share in his eternal glory by means of Christ Jesus. So after you have suffered a little while, he will restore, support, and strengthen you, and he will place you on a firm foundation. 1 Peter 5:10
Shalom. Adeleke Adeite.
Thank you for reading. What have you all been up to lately?
With all the pains and devastating experiences going on in the world, it is now easier to drift into discouragement. A lot of folks feel lost and lonely. Secret tears and valid fears have overwhelmed many souls. Everyone needs a miracle. Our world needs healing, hope and help.
While you are praying for a miracle don’t forget that you are one too. You are a blessing to our world. Don’t magnify your past and present mistakes. Don’t amplify the voice of your pains. You are a perfect portrait of God. You are pregnant with possibilities. How I wish we all can happen for good to ourselves.
Life is not all about highs and lows, there is a point in between the darkest night and the brightest day where you have to create radiant realities. You have all it takes to shift atmospheres. Don’t feel worthless or hopeless. Your struggles are a sign that there is something significant about your life.
Shine your light in the tunnel, don’t wait till you get to the end. Use the key of gratitude to unlock the limitless possibilities within you. Focus on the blessings around you, the beauty within you and the brighter days ahead of you. Your darkest valley is not a place of residence but a point of reference. Keep being the hero of your story.
Ask God for grace to grow stronger while you go through the flood and flames of life. Cry for help if you have to. Retreat if you need to. Seek a professional assistant if you have to. Find every positive possible way to get up and get better.
You may feel buried under the weight of pains and pressure but your life won’t end like this. See yourself as a seed planted to die, decay and flourish eventually. The painful process you are going through does not nullify the beautiful product you will ultimately produce. Cultivate yourself with positive thoughts, right actions and good relationships. Pray fervently and trust God to see you through. You are a winner, enforce your victory. Spread love and light in every little way you can.
Have an amazing day my friends. I love you all. ❤❤❤
Have you ever felt depressed after viewing videos and different photos on social media? Have you ever wondered why every other person seems to be doing better than you because of the things they post online? Do you see yourself as the last and the least among your peers based on your current struggles and status?
You are not alone, many of us are on this table.
However, the truth is, some of us have failed to realise that success is not always about growing faster and bigger, it is sometimes about growing deeper and stronger. Most deeply-rooted plants do not bear fruits rapidly, but they grow stronger, last longer and eventually produce more fruits than shallow-rooted plants.
Don’t feel worthless because you are not producing the kind of results others are producing. Not every form of growth is noticeable. Celebrate your small wins. Your little effort may not attract great ovation and accolades. Take solace in the fact that God’s approval is more important than men’s applause.
Don’t be jealous of the greener grass on the other side, focus on your field, water your ground with pride and engage grace for sustainable growth. Don’t get depressed by the growth and greatness of others, celebrate them and build up faith for your rising.
Rising first or rising fast cannot be compared to rising fully and remaining fruitful. Don’t rush the process, don’t ignore the principles. Success happens in stages and cycles.
Keep developing and deploying your gifts, don’t be pressured by the progress of others. Comparing yourself to others based on their result is an insult to the investment of God in your life. We are all wired to win. Celebrate those who are winning.
Identify your grace, find your pace, occupy your space and run your race. You are not created to be better than anyone, God created you to be the best version of yourself.
No one is doing better than you. You are designed to be different. You are destined to make a difference. Your difference is your shade of excellence. Everyone has enough space and grace to win.
The fact that your growth is not striking does not mean you are stagnant. The fact that your belly is not protruding doesn’t mean you aren’t pregnant. Success has different expressions and dimensions. You are pregnant with grace and greatness.
You are not lost or left behind. Focus on what God is doing within you, and not on the things happening around you.
Don’t settle too soon, keep grinding. Don’t settle too small, keep growing.
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Life is sweet but the truth is bitter. Life is a bed of roses, but it seems we have fast forgotten that roses have thorns and sometimes what’s beautiful can make us bleed.
Good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people, but no matter how much you feel broken and battered by life, don’t lose faith.
When I became homeless last year, I got to a juncture where all hope was lost, and I told God to take my life if He doesn’t want me on earth anymore. But God, came through and now I can look back and thank God for those tough times.
Please don’t kill yourself, yes I am talking to you, my dear friend, don’t quit! I may not know your name or the flames you are going through, but whether it’s shame or blame – for the things you did or the ones you didn’t do, trust me, there is hope for you.
Your journey may be tougher and your road rougher than you can explain but you are stronger than your pains.
I know this may sound like a cliche but I’ve been there before – the valley of death where strong men feel lifeless, helpless & hopeless. The dungeon where fear and frustration feel closer than a friend. However, that prison is not a place of residence.
God formed you in His image for a time like this, you are not a slave to sorrow, sadness and satanic oppression. You are not created to drown in the dungeon of depression. Stop listening to the lying voices in your head.
You are not your past mistakes or present errors, you are more than conquerors. A champion made to turn challenges to channels of blessings.
Don’t let the deception and distractions of the devil steal your joy forever. God is willing to flood your heart once more with the river of joy. I know it’s sometimes hard to let go and let God but find strength from within to go on your knees and beg God.
He is the help of the helpless and hope of the hopeless, He can fix your broken spirit and fill your soul with joy and bliss again. From those voices of shame and reproach, God can set you free. You have better and brighter days ahead of your, I pray you to begin to see.
I know there is no quick route to finding bliss but you can’t continue to live like this, and my friend, you are not going to die like this. Wipe away your tears and trade your tears for joy in the pool of prayers and positivity.
The devil wants you to perish in the prison of disgrace but God wants to plant you in the garden of grace.
Please don’t do it, don’t take your life, there is an end to this storm and strife. Death is not a termination but a transition, if you kill yourself I bet you will regret it because what awaits on the other side of suicide is worse than the pains and pressures of life.
Don’t believe the lie that it’s better to die.
If you think you are alone in the fight, you are wrong. Many people including me have gone through this valley and came out strong. Reach out to God and godly people around you, go on your knees and beg God to see you through.
I know it’s sometimes hard to pray because you don’t know what to say but God can hear your heart and the tales of your tears. Talk to Him every way you can, He can hear your silent scream.
God is mighty to save, It’s time to shift your focus and look unto Jesus if you don’t know him yet, it’s time to accept him. He died shamefully and rose again triumphantly so you won’t have to die in shame.
His love is strong enough to lift you out of hopelessness. His light is bright enough to lead you out of the darkness and His life. Cast your care upon Him for He cares for you.
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Dear crush, it seems we have been avoiding deep conversations since we started catching feelings for each other. There are a lot of things I wished I could say to you directly but I am afraid that you will cut off this beautiful bond between us.
So, I am breaking this silence with my keypad and notepad, attempting to tell you that I love you, and my love for you is pure and perfect – a slice of paradise.
However, there are things I may do or say that will hurt you temporarily, and there are things I may refuse to do or say that will make you doubt my love for you.
I am an imperfect man on a quest for perfection and full resurrection, yes resurrection.
My heart was broken, burned and buried by some of the ‘friends’ that occupied it in the past
I have lost touch with the reality of romance because the fragrance of my heart was polluted with the flame of falsehood, betrayal and deception.
I have loved the wrong people the right way and loved the right people the wrong way because my emotions were bereft of purity and godly purposes.
My love was blind because it lacked the Light of God. My love was dead because it lacked the life of Christ. I was looking for love in the wrong places – filling the God-shaped hole in my heart with the pleasures of this world.
All my previous displays of affection were born out of a distasteful desire – to fulfil the lust of the flesh. Although I tried to do what was right, but I was on the wrong side of morality and far from divinity.
At a point in time, depression began to set in, I drowned deeply in the ocean of frustration. While jumping from one random relationship to another, I found myself in the valley of the shadow of death, but the love of God was reckless, excess and limitess enough to find me.
God came running after me to rescue me. He lighted up every shadow, and whispered to me, “Dear son, death is swallowed up in victory”. He transported me from the valley of the shadow of death to the mountain of the rainbow of life.
God added flavour and colour to my life, and now I can boldly say that I am salt and light to my world. I was rescued for such a time as this and ransomed for a treasure like you.
Dear crush, I am growing and healing fast, and I am trying not to go back to the pit God pulled me from and the sins He saved me from.
So, I may not say all the things you want me to say or do all you want me to do but I can guarantee you that if you allow God’s love to find expression in your heart and our friendship, we will do life together and love each other as Christ loved the church…
In the meantime, let’s flow in faith, fun and friendship. I hope this is not as complicated as you thought it would be.
– Adeleke Adeite
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