A Letter To My Crush

Dear crush, it seems we have been avoiding deep conversations since we started catching feelings for each other. There are a lot of things I wished I could say to you directly but I am afraid that you will cut off this beautiful bond between us.

So, I am breaking this silence with my keypad and notepad, attempting to tell you that I love you, and my love for you is pure and perfect – a slice of paradise.

However, there are things I may do or say that will hurt you temporarily, and there are things I may refuse to do or say that will make you doubt my love for you.

I am an imperfect man on a quest for perfection and full resurrection, yes resurrection.

My heart was broken, burned and buried by some of the ‘friends’ that occupied it in the past

I have lost touch with the reality of romance because the fragrance of my heart was polluted with the flame of falsehood, betrayal and deception.

I have loved the wrong people the right way and loved the right people the wrong way because my emotions were bereft of purity and godly purposes.

My love was blind because it lacked the Light of God. My love was dead because it lacked the life of Christ. I was looking for love in the wrong places – filling the God-shaped hole in my heart with the pleasures of this world.

All my previous displays of affection were born out of a distasteful desire – to fulfil the lust of the flesh. Although I tried to do what was right, but I was on the wrong side of morality and far from divinity.

At a point in time, depression began to set in, I drowned deeply in the ocean of frustration. While jumping from one random relationship to another, I found myself in the valley of the shadow of death, but the love of God was reckless, excess and limitess enough to find me.

God came running after me to rescue me. He lighted up every shadow, and whispered to me, “Dear son, death is swallowed up in victory”.
He transported me from the valley of the shadow of death to the mountain of the rainbow of life.

God added flavour and colour to my life, and now I can boldly say that I am salt and light to my world. I was rescued for such a time as this and ransomed for a treasure like you.

Dear crush, I am growing and healing fast, and I am trying not to go back to the pit God pulled me from and the sins He saved me from.

So, I may not say all the things you want me to say or do all you want me to do but I can guarantee you that if you allow God’s love to find expression in your heart and our friendship, we will do life together and love each other as Christ loved the church…

In the meantime, let’s flow in faith, fun and friendship. I hope this is not as complicated as you thought it would be.

– Adeleke Adeite

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Borrow No Sorrow

Whether you are on the mountain,
basking in bliss, blessings and beauty
or you feel stuck in the valley of pain,
seeking an exit route out of adversity.

Don’t be defined by your condition,
you are a boundless mobile miracle.
Don’t be deterred by stormy situations,
locate opportunities in every obstacle.

There is a flaming faith inside of you,
it’s potent enough to melt mountains.
There is a balm flowing inside of you,
it’s strong enough to heal intense pains.

Maximize your pain to make a profit,
don’t wallow in worries, it’s pointless.
Stir up the dizzy giants in your spirit,
look up and within, you’re not helpless.

It takes crushing to make a new wine,
see adversity as an added advantage.
It takes burning for the sun to shine,
Pain is part of the colourful package.

Don’t borrow sorrow from tomorrow,
there is a river of joy within you.
The God who provides for the sparrow
places a higher premium on you.
© Adeleke Adeite

You Are Made To Manifest

Stop magnifying your mistakes,
You are not a total wreckage.
Stop being haunted by heartbreaks,
You are still a complete package.

Flaunt your faith, floor your fears,
God’s promises are timely and true.
Crush confusion, tame your tears,
Your best days are ahead of you.

You are made to manifest,
Refuse to be boxed into a corner.
You are created for conquest,
Storm the stage of life like a winner.

You are an expression of God,
A matchless and priceless work of art.
Don’t be deterred by life’s rod,
Hope abounds for your broken heart.

Life is an ocean of opportunities
Learn to cruise with the current.
Life is a potpourri of possibilities,
Learn to maximise the moment.

© Adeleke Adeite

Hugs and Handshakes

In a world of pressure and pain,
We need doses of healing and hope.
In a world of struggles and strain,
We need doses of courage to cope.

In a world of flame, fury and flood,
We need doses of rest and restoration.
In a world of bullets, bars and blood,
We need doses of and affection.

In a world of fears and frustration,
We need doses of hug and handshakes.
In a world of death and destruction,
We need doses affection and all it takes.

It is believed that hugs may not only have healing powers, but actually help protect against stress and negative emotions caused by interpersonal conflict.

When people continually commit to interpersonal touch such as hugs and handshakes, it oftentimes improve their sense of wellbeing and leads to healthy relationships.

Today, lend a hand of healing and hope to someone in distress. Save a soul, someone needs your touch to survive and thrive.

If you can’t use your hands, use your head, if you can’t use your head, use your heart, we all have what it takes to make the world a better place. Cognition, compassion and character count!

©Adeleke Adeite.

Dear Hurting Heart

There are times we feel hurt, hopeless and helpless. Life throws bricks at us to break our hearts and fight our faith.
In stormy seasons like this, our strength and skills seem worthless. We tend to believe that it’s either prayers are not working or God is not listening.

I have been through such situations in recent times, I was tempted to ask, “where is God?” I stopped breathing for days. I couldn’t feel myself, God seems so distant, I drowned in feelings of defeat, disappointments, denial and delay that I was dealing with.

In stretching my faith, I prayed, praised, worshipped, cried and pleaded but things appeared to get more out of my control. In all of these, a still small voice kept on telling me that I was not buried to die but ‘buried to bloom‘.

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I began to ruminate of the lives of Bible characters such as Joseph, David, Job, Esther and Jesus. These great characters faced tough situations that made it look like they were forgotten and forsaken, but God -the ever faithful One came through for them.

When you feel buried, broken or battered by the battles of life. When you feel stranded, stuck and surrounded by the storm of life. Don’t feel dismayed or despondent, God may be using the storm to strengthen you. He sometimes uses battles to build, bless and beautify our lives.

Dear broken heart, I may not know what you are going through but I know that tough times are temporary seasons that come with a lesson and a blessing. Here are some ways to hold on and stay strong in the storm.

  • Find support from genuine and godly friends and family.

  • Study God’s word, study plans on ‘hope’ would help.
  • Pray even when you don’t feel like, ask friend a to join you in prayers.
  • Listen to songs and sermons that will stir up your faith
  • Discard depressing thoughts and materials.
  • Take a break from social media (platforms) or anything that may fuel frustration.
  • Talk to Godand talk to people who can help.
  • Listen and be on the look out, God is with you and He is whispering words of faith to you.

Feel free to say these poetic prayers.

Dear God,
Help me to see your hand
when life’s flame floods my eyes.
Help me to daily understand
that You are wonderful and wise.

Dear God,
Help me to walk in wisdom
to know what’s perfect to do.
Help me to flow in freedom
to lead a life that’s true.

Dear God,
Let me not turn to sin for relief
no matter how tough life gets.
Save me from gloom and grief
no matter how sorrow besets.

Dear God,
Help me to know that I am
not buried in darkness to die.
Help to know that I am
favoured, fortified and free to fly.

Finally, here is an admonition to everyone going through troubles. “For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever!” 2 Corinthians 4:17

© Adeleke Adeite 2020
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Dealing With Depression

I have been there before – the valley of death where men get seared without smelling like smoke; no scar or bruises to show that you are burning down emotionally.

I was depressed for many years, and I can tell the taste of hopelessness especially when it is cooked with fear, failures and frustration. Many years in the dungeon of deep depression, far beyond feeling, I came face-to-face with a force that turns physical giants to emotional ants.

Depression defies definition, it goes beyond expression. Don’t try to define it.

No one snaps out of depression. However, no matter how cancerous it may be, it is fixable. Depression is not a death sentence.

Unlike sadness, depression is not a symptom, it’s a systemic disorder that defies physical strength, material wealth, social status and intelligence.

It’s a heated hole that needs to filled and chilled with affection, right association and medical attention as the case may be. Depressed individuals need more than healing, they need to find the meaning of their miseries, and that meaning and deal with its roots

According to mayorclinic.org, depression is a mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest and can interfere with human’s daily functioning. In as much as this definition may not fully capture what depression is all about, it indicates that depression is a disorder.

You can’t tell a depressed person to just snap out of it, but you can help them walk out of it as a winner. I will like to share certain facts that you need to know about depression and how to walk out of it. Let’s go on a poetic cruise.

Depression is difficult to define,
It’s clearly beyond not feeling fine.
A depressed person may feel nothing
But weep within about everything.

Depression has deep dimensions,
it goes beyond facial expressions.
A depressed man can still smile
while his faith gets more fragile.

Depression clearly isn’t sadness,
It’s the grave of guts and gladness.
A depressed man isn’t really weak,
He is tired of trying not to be weak.

Depression is pain without purpose,
It’s a thorn that reeks just like a rose.
A depressed man basks in bitterness
Yet swims in the stream of sweetness.

Depression is beyond what and why.
Do you ask onions why people cry?
Depression is a system, not a symptom.
Dealing with it requires great wisdom.

Depression is beyond being emotional,
To get better requires being intentional.
Despair has an end, don’t quit trying,
That death-voice in your head is lying…

Depression is more like a secret storm,
It makes a strong man live like a worm.
Despair doesn’t kill, helplessness does.
Seek help, speak out, silence that buzz.

How and Where To Get Help

Help is always available but you must be willing to be reachable and vulnerable. Get access to the right people or give access to the right people
Here are a few other tips.

If depression is a disorder, then it means the ‘disrupted’ order needs to be restored.

In the beginning of creation, the earth was without form and void, darkness covered the whole earth – depression look-alike. But God commanded light and order into the void and dark world.

Turning to God in prayer will set the foundation for healing. However, healing from depression is a process that requires human connection, affection and medical attention in some cases. A depressed person may need to see an emotions doctor. Below are a few tips that can also help:

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/coping-with-depression.htm
https://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/coping-with-depression.htm

Depression is not a death sentence. It is a mental health issue that can be solved, cured and defied. Don’t die trying to be strong all by yourself. Live out loud, love out loud, lead out loud.
© Adeleke Adeite 2020

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To get more tips visit https://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/coping-with-depression.htm