It seems every girl has a sour story to tell, some are yet to heal from the fire and fury of rape. Their scars are scary though unseen, their injuries get fuelled by injustice and stigmatization. Is there a sanctuary for assaulted souls?
When I was eight years old, my oldest brother sexually assaulted me for two years. I didn’t like it, but I didn’t do anything to stop it because it was all I knew. One day before my mom left, I asked her not to go because I didn’t want to be alone with him in the house. She asked why and I finally told her. His defense was that it wasn’t just one-sided, but I didn’t know what else to do but let him do it. Things got awkward after that, but now he doesn’t even speak with us, has a wife and kid and is just fine, I suppose… (Story of an eighteen years old lady, culled from http://www.takebackthenight.org)
Rape is a forbidden fruit that has many seeds, and one of them is ignorance. A man who knows better will do better. So let me remind all men why rape is not just a grievous sin but an act of ingratitude to women.
There are some things a boy needs to learn before he becomes a man so that he won’t become a mindless and mannerless man. Also, there are some things a man needs to learn so that he won’t act a wild man. Justice begins within. I really don’t like protests, so I am not going to wait for people to start protesting for justice again, let me speak to the soul of our men, may be I can prevent anotherr protest. Shall I?
A lady is cruising around the corner,
but you spotted a net to score a goal,
forgetting that she’s a sister with a soul.
She’s not a prey, God is her sole owner.
A woman’s womb is man’s first fortress
She bleeds and grieves to bestow life.
Yet you wrecked her haven with strife
O rapist, you merit to drown in distress!
A real man cultivates a budding flower,
He sees every woman as God’s package.
His rod is not a weapon of wreckage…
Only madmen violates a divine tower.
You put the blame on her skimpy skirt,
But her body is none of your business.
Look and leave, your royal badness,
Who rapes you for an unbuttoned shirt?
Every woman is a mobile miracle,
She is a gallery of undeniable attraction.
Even if some blatantly brew distraction,
Must you dive into the river of ridicule?
Don’t trick or taunt her to feed your ego.
Without consent, sex is a poor pleasure,
and it bestows misery beyond measure.
Tame your tool, be your own superhero.
Sexual urge is real, no doubt or debate,
It is not a creation of man, so let God…
Set strict boundaries for your fleshy rod,
Yield to the One who can fix your fate.
© Adeleke Adeite 2020
Please share with all the men and boys in your life.