Seven Lessons I Learnt in my Darkest Hours
No matter what you have been through, what you are going through and what you will go through, know that you are here to live, love, learn, lead, and leave a legacy.
A lot has happened in 2020, and here are few lessons I have learned.
- God is not trying to figure out how to fix your life. He has everything figured out before forming you in your mother’s womb.
Joseph was sent to Egypt 13 years before Pharoah had a dream. The solution was provided 13 years before the problem. If you are patient and properly positioned, your solution is already around you.
- Pain is a priceless package. It’s a bundle of blessings and lessons to the wise. It’s however a bundle of burdens and loss to the unwise.
Greatness and growth cannot be achieved without a certain level of pain and sacrifice. Don’t plunder your pain. Profit from your pain.
- Betrayal is a bad bargain, it ends in premium perdition. If you feel betrayed by anyone, ask God for grace to forgive them and move on with your life. Judas betrayed Jesus but he died before Jesus. He is the only reported case of suicide in the new testament. Don’t get bitter whenever you are betrayed, it’s a waste of emotion. Life has a way of paying backstabbers, especially when you pray for them (not against them).
- Nobody owes you anything. Your friends and family are not obligated to help you. Their support is an added advantage. Learn to look within for strength and support when no one seems to care.
Don’t anticipate hope, help and happiness from anyone. Your rich relatives, nice neighbours, sweet spouses, and amazing friends don’towe you anything. Be your own best friend. Stand Out And Rise. (SOAR)
- ‘Selfishness’ enhances selflessness. Yes, that’s right. People will always be tempted to use, abuse and misuse you, but you have the right to refuse to be used.
Don’t die trying to make everyone else happy. You matter too. Take care of yourself. You deserve some pampering too.
- Don’t sink while trying to be seen. Try to shun social rat race. Social media is a bottomless pit. You shouldn’t drown to ‘deliver’.
Take time to retreat, recharge and relaunch. Take solace in solitude, serenity and silence. You shouldn’t be heard or seen all the time.
- Feel free to cry. Jesus wept. He cried in pains on the cross. Crying is not a sign of weakness, it’s an expression of life. Dead men don’t cry. Break down, pick up those broken pieces to make a masterpiece.
Not everyone you cry to for help will have an answer. Cry to God, get help from the right places and hope for the best. You will win.
© Adeleke Adeite 2020
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